Theodora
01-28-2005, 11:25 AM
I've been following the recent "discussions" here and commend all for coming back to engage one of the newest members here. Far from fearing that the forum is headed for another "melt-down, I have been encouraged to see some very careful explanation of personal positions/triggers and, insofar as this is possible, "engagement" of issues which ARE difficult.
If I may be so bold----as more or less of an "outsider" here as I have explained recently---may I suggest that this discussion be "tabled" right now. This is not saying that I don't think people should talk about their true feelings etc. BUT it is also evident that emotions are running somewhat "hot" at the moment. Far from being helpful to continue to pursue WHAT those emotions are and how they might be "fixed,"---from each person's personal point of view---IT SEEMS TO ME---that there might be a need for just "getting on with things" as best we can. We know that there are people here for whom background/experience WILL NOT ALLOW them to "be on the same page." As long as we keep this from a personal standpoint and are honest about our positions, etc., I think this can continue to be a "safe" place.
As for myself, as some of you know, I already have much too much "on my plate" so really can't take on some of this super-charged atmosphere....so, yes...I too may well elect not to "be here" for a while as things cool down....as they DO. I HAVE had enough "history" here to be confident that that will be so and to TRUST the basic good intentions of people here. (DO remember too that our forum administrators have put software in place which will allow them to intervene on BEHALF of the FORUM if things DO being to be too difficult here for people to participate "safely."
BUT...We're not here to "fix" one another, but to try to contribute out of our own "experience, strength and hope." When that experience is triggering too much of our background "stuff," it seems that "charity" might indicate that we explore what our other options might be on our own journeys TOWARD recovery and healing.
Peace to you all.
Theodora
If I may be so bold----as more or less of an "outsider" here as I have explained recently---may I suggest that this discussion be "tabled" right now. This is not saying that I don't think people should talk about their true feelings etc. BUT it is also evident that emotions are running somewhat "hot" at the moment. Far from being helpful to continue to pursue WHAT those emotions are and how they might be "fixed,"---from each person's personal point of view---IT SEEMS TO ME---that there might be a need for just "getting on with things" as best we can. We know that there are people here for whom background/experience WILL NOT ALLOW them to "be on the same page." As long as we keep this from a personal standpoint and are honest about our positions, etc., I think this can continue to be a "safe" place.
As for myself, as some of you know, I already have much too much "on my plate" so really can't take on some of this super-charged atmosphere....so, yes...I too may well elect not to "be here" for a while as things cool down....as they DO. I HAVE had enough "history" here to be confident that that will be so and to TRUST the basic good intentions of people here. (DO remember too that our forum administrators have put software in place which will allow them to intervene on BEHALF of the FORUM if things DO being to be too difficult here for people to participate "safely."
BUT...We're not here to "fix" one another, but to try to contribute out of our own "experience, strength and hope." When that experience is triggering too much of our background "stuff," it seems that "charity" might indicate that we explore what our other options might be on our own journeys TOWARD recovery and healing.
Peace to you all.
Theodora