Disconnected

[broken_hearted_sheep]

I am two years and 1300 miles away from my spiritually abusive church. I have really healed, but I have noticed that many of my friends, especially those that also left, are still tied to the system. They refuse to acknowledge their abuse. Some say they dealt with it. Some are now repeating the same behavior that was so unhealthy in their new churches. One friend, who certainly has the call of pastor on his life, started his own church. He didn't like it when I told two of his sheep they needed to go to counseling and that I thought he needed to sit down for a season to heal and be restored before venturing out in the pastoral role!

He called to "check up on us" the day after I talked to his member and told her perhaps she and her husband and even their pastor needed to rest, refresh and receive some godly counsel. Haven't heard from him since! I can hardly believe it-my heart just breaks for them. :(

I remember in the beginning being told people will probably not listen to me once I was truly free. I remember being told people often prefer familiar slavery to unknown freedom, but I never guessed it would be this many people still trapped.

Lately, on facebook, I watch people live out their dysfunctional faith and I just weep. Why does it have to be this way?

My SA pastor sent me a note to be his friend on facebook. He wanted us to call him so he could talk to our kids. Not only that, he wants us to let them come spend the summer with them! He didn't have my email addresses or my husband's, and yet he went out of his way to find us.

Is he kidding? We haven't talked to either one of the pastors in two years! I can hardly believe the audacity. :mad: What goes on in people's minds? It's like they are disconnected with reality. Disconnected...from Christ, reality and people.

I have watched my friend from our SA church who moved down here to TX with us, jump from church to church. She was ordained a prophetess after attending a church, twice? She didn't think anything was unusual about that. :eek:

She went home to OH for a month to take care of family business and was back at that place...and came home and told me I needed to forgive them(SA pastors)...and that God laid on her heart He was holding up our blessings because of my animosity towards the SA pastors...seriously?

So let me get this straight. My husband and I both lost our jobs, our house, and he was unemployed for eight and a half months because we are harboring bitterness? I watched my husbands depression resurface and instead of being sympathetic, she said our unresolved anger towards them caused all these bad things to happen?

I am speechless...and I think I may have to disconnect from some people... again.

[Reg]

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So let me get this straight. My husband and I both lost our jobs, our house, and he was unemployed for eight and a half months because we are harboring bitterness? I watched my husbands depression resurface and instead of being sympathetic, she said our unresolved anger towards them caused all these bad things to happen?

I am speechless...and I think I may have to disconnect from some people... again.
Sheep,

She sounds like one of Job's so called friends.

Right you are. When you detect these unhealthy attitudes it's best to distance yourself from them.

[Jerry]

Dear Brokenheartedsheep,,,
Beware those who come to you in sheep's clothing,,,,,but inwardly they are ravening wolves ;) Sure does fit doesn't it ???

Love Jerry

[broken_hearted_sheep]

Thanks Reg and Jerry...I am getting to the point when someone opens their mouth to say, "The Lord laid it on my heart..." or "The Spirit of the Lord told me..." I am going to be like King David when he went to King Abimelech. I'll starting barking and drooling and "confirm" for them I am crazy! :D

[Jerry]

My SA pastor sent me a note to be his friend on facebook. He wanted us to call him so he could talk to our kids. Not only that, he wants us to let them come spend the summer with them! He didn't have my email addresses or my husband's, and yet he went out of his way to find us.



Dear Sheep,,,
On rereading this post I find this part "Festooned" with red flags...Somebody done blew this guys pilot light out !!! This is stalking pure and simple...Take it serious until proven otherwise :eek:
Love Jerry

[hornblower]

You will know them by their fruits......now fruit taste sweet and satisfies your cravings, nourishes us too, is comforting and a delight to the taste buds. So yep, not much fruit laying around these days is there? So we take it where we find it and leave the rest of that bitter stuff alone. let it rot.
Sad thing but true I have found anyway we are really alone in this world just as He was alone. Twelve sounds like a lot of friends to me but remember who one of them was? Then Peter denied Him in the end. Only one showed up at the cross. Its hard hard stuff. Its good to be able to be free here though. I no longer expect much from anyone then Im not surprised any more. Im so fortunate because I never see any of them, thank goodness. Lol. One things for sure my ex pastor would never try to come after me like that. haha . He was too good for that sort of thing. Weird SA is isnt it?