Honeybee12
01-18-2010, 08:32 AM
I recently ended going to my therapist. She's a PHD psychologist and not a Christian. It seems when going to her and talking about my spiritually abusive church history, she was very helpful. She'd never counseled anyone in regards to this kind of situation. It was actually new to the both of us.
I have hit some financial hard times and can no longer afford the weekly $40 copay. That's $160 per month! Ouch!
Anyway, I don't want to get too personal.. but she and I differ on the issue pre-marital sex. I don't believe it's right and she believes when it's two consenting adults who care for each other, then it's fine. She has been very helpful in other aspects of my therapy, but this particular subject is one I'm struggling with lately. And it's been really tricky to find out the deeper issues about why it's a struggle for me. I felt we hit a wall last week, and while she didn't want me to compromise on my faith (which I think is really cool) she also felt inadequate giving any advice on the matter.
Was it too hasty for me to leave? I've been told many times that secular counseling can cause problems. I think I've been helped so much by this woman, but since this issue is a big one.. I don't think it's something I necessarily need to actually try to convince her of.. and almost debate a global controversial topic... while trying to get some healing.
I've decided to stop seeing her. It's expensive, but I do know I need therapy.
It's so hard to find a good counselor! Someone who believes but also someone who won't try to just 'pray away' issues and hope that they somehow magically 'disappear'. Since my problems haven't magically disappeared so far, it's obvious that God wants me to work through them and deal with them. Which I'm more than okay with.
Ack!
I have hit some financial hard times and can no longer afford the weekly $40 copay. That's $160 per month! Ouch!
Anyway, I don't want to get too personal.. but she and I differ on the issue pre-marital sex. I don't believe it's right and she believes when it's two consenting adults who care for each other, then it's fine. She has been very helpful in other aspects of my therapy, but this particular subject is one I'm struggling with lately. And it's been really tricky to find out the deeper issues about why it's a struggle for me. I felt we hit a wall last week, and while she didn't want me to compromise on my faith (which I think is really cool) she also felt inadequate giving any advice on the matter.
Was it too hasty for me to leave? I've been told many times that secular counseling can cause problems. I think I've been helped so much by this woman, but since this issue is a big one.. I don't think it's something I necessarily need to actually try to convince her of.. and almost debate a global controversial topic... while trying to get some healing.
I've decided to stop seeing her. It's expensive, but I do know I need therapy.
It's so hard to find a good counselor! Someone who believes but also someone who won't try to just 'pray away' issues and hope that they somehow magically 'disappear'. Since my problems haven't magically disappeared so far, it's obvious that God wants me to work through them and deal with them. Which I'm more than okay with.
Ack!