I just got a harassing phone call...

[Malinda]

The pastors wife of my old church just called me and was screaming into the phone about some letter that their new worship leader received. Wow, was she ever pissed. Apparently someone warned this guy that their church was crazy. I didn't get much more than that...She was just ranting and raving about going to sick the FBI on me or whoever sent the letter. I ended up hanging up on her because she wouldn't quit screaming at me, which felt sooo good. It felt even better to know that they were so pissed....I guess the truth hurts. What I don't get is how the FBI will jump when they call and what they're gonna do about it??? How are they gonna trace a letter????

[kodee]

Malinda,

There is nothing legaly she could do to anyone, especialy if you didn't send the letter. I'm sure the FBI has more pressing things to do then trace a letter that only expresses the craziness of that church, its not like it threatened someones life or was some type of extortion. By her reaction it prove the letter point and if it happens again you could get a harrassment order agenst the members of that church and a protection order on her.

[Malinda]

The sad thing about it all was the poor woman has no clue the level of depravity that her husband sinks too. She kept screaming over and over how could I do this to them after all they had done for me.....It was just messed up! She wouldn't even let me speak. It made me laugh after the initial shock and panic at hearing her voice, about the FBI. They do have much better things to do. They are insane to think that just because they call that they can move the FBI.
You are right though...their reactions to immediately accuse and harass me prove whatever was in that letter. My experience is the one who shouts the loudest is usually the one who did it. If it had been a complete fabrication they would haven't have even bothered. But it bothered them enough that they were in a complete panic with people shouting in the background and her in hysterics.
They are just stupid!

[kodee]

Your right, its a good attitude to have, if there is anything to thier minestry it would stand on its own merrits. I would concider thinking about a no contact order or some legal steps. people who do crazy stuff like this could do just about anything, not that a no contact order would stop them. it would just help you document thier actions

[hornblower]

Excuse me? Dont you have the right to write a letter and say anything you want if you are not threatening someones life. It is a free country the last time I checked......in some ways it is still at least. Doesnt matter if you wrote a letter to whom ever or not...... does she have the right to call you screaming and threaten you?

Ive got words to say about her but I cant use that language here.

It was the pastors wife that did her number on me so I guess Im still pretty tender there.

[Jerry]

There is a real easy way to stop this woman from calling you,,,,,,,tell her you have decided to become a "Zen Buddhist" :D

[Malinda]

Jerry, I love the Zen Buddhist thing...They've already spread the lie that I'll probably backslide and not go to church so the I guess I'd only be confirming their worst "fears".
What got me is she hinted at knowing I had talked to ex members of the church? And she mentioned specific people...I'd only started talking to them last week. I don't know how but they know an awful lot about me and what I'm doing. As you all know, I just changed churches. She couldn't know that unless she was doing some pretty heavy investigating.....They've had people investigated before....
It scares me to think what they won't stoop to.

[riverdove]

Malinda,

To add on to Jerry's comment, you can also tell her that Zen Buddhism will help her keep her calm (from all her shouting, screaming and verbally abusing others, if being a Christian doesn't!!!)

But, seriously, it makes me think the way she behaves is no difference from the world and she's the pastor's wife???? I was also harrassed by a particular deacon's wife over the phone almost every night for a length of a time until I almost broke down. Among other abusive stuff, I figured if I didn't leave, I would end up like one of them.

Bottom line, I think the greed for power and control has a lot to do with all the abuse and as you can already see they can drive those control freaks overboard so much that they can stoop so low in the way they behave toward the very people they are supposed to minister to. Run fast and take care, hon.