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jane
08-30-2007, 09:32 AM
Well, I pop in from time to time........to read my personal messages and see how everyone is doing, thinking maybe I could come back.

This place meant so much to me for the years that I was here......A place to question, talk, vent, find a way out of such devasting pain and confusion......and fear. I miss some of the people that are here....... I experience things and want to come here and share........but how is this place any different than the church that I came out of????


WOW, I see people are still allowed to beat each other up. (in the name of Jesus for some :eek:)

I just don't know how you can continue being abusive if you have actually endured abuse. Somehow in my little mind I am thinking that if you know how it feels to be attacked and abused you wouldn't be able to do it for one moment to someone else.

Decieve yourselves if you need to......back things up with scripture or even the Webster Dictionary for all I care......it is still abuse.

If you disagree with someone, try ignoring the post or posting what you believe...........

goodness. A locked thread still leaves words of scarring. If some of those words were mine, I would be ashamed of myself, but then I experienced the painful arrows from spiritual abuse and couldn't fathom trying to shame, blame or belittle someone for having a different opinion than my own.

At least I hope not.

A few of you really need to seek counseling, and I am not meaning this in an attacking, name calling way. There were two posters that when I read some things, I thought, wow, it is too bad that they wouldn't be able to recieve anything from me........because they need to find a counselor to help them. The pain, wounds, anger and seeing things that aren't in the thread.....to me are symptoms that you need some serious help......for your own sakes.

There have been a few times when a posting has caused one of you to think that people "meant" something that they didn't; that saw personal attacks where it was just opinion; that accused people of ganging up against you when there was no evidence of this......please get to a counselor to help you get free from these paranoid, PTSD like symptoms. If you could see it the way it comes out, you would know what I am trying to say.

Peace to all of you.........

jane

abbey
08-30-2007, 05:41 PM
Hi Jane. I havent been around lately. In some ways I was mad that Mary left and in other ways I wanted to defocus on the SA. Sometimes i need a break from talking about it.

I just wanted to say that its so important for this place to be safe! Weve all been harmed ENOUGH by other christians, we dont need it here. We cant fully expect all bliss and harmony here tho! We are all flawed and insecure and *insert problem here* We are human and act like fallen humans act. But i think all and all that the group is positive.

I hope and pray I never feel the desire to leave because of some conflict with anyone. That would be a bummer. But so far so good....

The group has helped me and im glad for that.

Stay well! A couple of cents...

Love ab

Janice
08-31-2007, 03:38 AM
(((((((((((((((((((jANE)))))))))))

GOOD TO SEE U. DID YOU HAVE THAT BABY YET??

jane
08-31-2007, 01:11 PM
hello janice,

no, Sam isn't here yet but we are down to the 20 day countdown. We have a scheduled c section in about 2 weeks, so unless he comes sooner.......2 weeks is it!

feeling it in this heat.

How are you doing physically? Everything ok?

Jane

jane
08-31-2007, 01:13 PM
Abbey-

I am glad that you find this place helpful, it was for me for over 2 years I think.

people disagreeing, I can take. It is the shaming, name calling stuff.......but I've not seen you doing it so I am not directing that towards you.

anyway, glad that you're back and doing well.

jane

Janice
08-31-2007, 04:59 PM
hello janice,

no, Sam isn't here yet but we are down to the 20 day countdown. We have a scheduled c section in about 2 weeks, so unless he comes sooner.......2 weeks is it!

feeling it in this heat.

How are you doing physically? Everything ok?

Jane

Please do keep us posted!!! And I want pics that's an order! :p

One day at a time with me. Today wasn't a bad day.