Major sad day

[ex-shep]

I regret to announce that my wife and I have separated. Her mental illness was too out of control to manage. I felt like one who spouse was drinking and not working the programme. I could no longer manage the insanity. I did everything I could to help. In the end, I decided to leave. My wife is in a women's shelter. The staff is looking for help for her. I am scrambling to find a new place closer to work as I am looking at an eviction. The forty mile drive at night was too much.

I also regret that Fidelio and Rose were surrendered to a shelter. I could deal with my wife's insanity. I fell apart when the cats had to go. I was also disclosed that my wife was abusing the cats. That was more than I could take. Fidelio was in declining health. Most likely he will be euthanized. He was 9 years old. Rose might stand a better chance.

I relish the prayerful support of the forum, especially as I look for housing. :(

[Elisabeth]

So sorry, Ex-Shep. :( :(

[ex-shep]

So sorry, Ex-Shep. :( :(

I think I will scare up the money needed for the rent and then negotiate for an efficiency which is $100 less. I did email a couple of churches. I may get a roommate. The current apartment is large enough for two. I know the landlord is OK with it.

The shelters are great if one works days. Does not work if he is on second.

Willow did complement me on my resiliency. I always managed to find a way to bounce back. With my wife's insanity gone, I feel better already.

The real thing is being torn up about loosing the cats. Fidelio was in declining health. It was probally just as well. The animal shelter is a lot more peaceful than the chaos at home.

I did pick up OT for Saturday. I wanted to break the Friday Saturday anxiety cycle.

[Anna Marta]

Sorry to hear the latest. Prayers are there for you.

Love
Anna Marta

[hoipoloi]

I'm so sorry, ex-shep, to hear of your sadness -- my own concerns are nonsense compared with yours.

(In the background now I'm listening to "Love Me", played by Art Tatum, a son of Ohio.)

[Reg]

So sorry to hear about your trials & difficulties.

Thank you for sharing these with us.

I live alone and have done so since my wife left me. Initially, I went through a deep depression and all I could do was watch videos. My stepfather left me with almost 1,000. I would watch 3-4 a day. I also started smoking and drinking again to cope. I realized that I could not continue doing this for very long and eventually quit.

I was forced to my knees in tears on a daily basis for almost 6 months. I even contemplated suicide. I truly was "in the valley of the shadow of death".
I felt a comfort coming from God in my depression. The last part of that scripture says, "for thou art with me." I experienced that peace that trancends all understanding.

God seems to be nearest to us when we are in similar circimstances. I pray you will feel this to help you through your difficulties.

[Jerry]

Dear Shep,,,,
No matter how bad,or good,it gets today,,,,,,,,,,,,,tomorrow today is in the past ............So ,,,,,,,,tomorrow will always hold hope ;)
Love Jerry

[ex-shep]

So sorry to hear about your trials & difficulties.

Thank you for sharing these with us.

I live alone and have done so since my wife left me. Initially, I went through a deep depression and all I could do was watch videos. My stepfather left me with almost 1,000. I would watch 3-4 a day. I also started smoking and drinking again to cope. I realized that I could not continue doing this for very long and eventually quit.

I was forced to my knees in tears on a daily basis for almost 6 months. I even contemplated suicide. I truly was "in the valley of the shadow of death".
I felt a comfort coming from God in my depression. The last part of that scripture says, "for thou art with me." I experienced that peace that trancends all understanding.

God seems to be nearest to us when we are in similar circimstances. I pray you will feel this to help you through your difficulties.



Funny you mentioned it, I fell asleep listening to the Psalms on CD. It is usually the stuff New Age groups are made off, but at least it did the treat for me last-- albeit unorthodox.

[ex-shep]

After the dust settled, the problems were revolving around her meds. Long story short, that can be resolved in short order. I will sleep on it, but I might let her come home, let her rest and regroup and see how the meds work. I think there might be the beginning of some stability.

[Anna Marta]

Both living with a mental illness one's self and living with the person who is suffering from such an illness is a painful journey.

Whatever you choose to do please know that my prayers are with you and I care.

Love
Anna Marta and

[ex-shep]

Both living with a mental illness one's self and living with the person who is suffering from such an illness is a painful journey.

Whatever you choose to do please know that my prayers are with you and I care.

Love
Anna Marta and


Wife is home. She is starting to recognize when she is starting to slide.

[Anna Marta]

Such good news!

[Willow]

After the dust settled, the problems were revolving around her meds. Long story short, that can be resolved in short order. I will sleep on it, but I might let her come home, let her rest and regroup and see how the meds work. I think there might be the beginning of some stability.

This is huge... I'm really glad you all were able to pinpoint the problem and find a gracious resolution.

[ex-shep]

This is huge... I'm really glad you all were able to pinpoint the problem and find a gracious resolution.

It still leaves us without cats. It has been rather quiet around the apartment.

[Willow]

Can you go get the kitties back?

[ex-shep]

Can you go get the kitties back?

Once they are surrendered, the shelter owns them. Most likely Fidelio was euthanized. Rose may be put up for adoption or refered to a foster parent who adopts purebred cats. They are gone. It is quiet in the apartment.

[Hope 98]

missed the developments on this thread

ex-shep - praying for peace in your home

maybe you can get new kitties when things are stable?

[Willow]

Once they are surrendered, the shelter owns them. Most likely Fidelio was euthanized. Rose may be put up for adoption or refered to a foster parent who adopts purebred cats. They are gone. It is quiet in the apartment.

*sigh* I didn't know that. I once got my dog back after animal control picked him up. I thought it was like that when you surrendered your pets too.

[ex-shep]

Actually they are available for adoption at Animal Protection League in Cleveland if anyone is interested.

[Willow]

I've had to give up animals on several occasions (2 horses and a dog) because I didn't have the financial means to care for them. It does hurt... but there is a sense that even in giving them away you are caring for them properly... rather than holding on to them and not being able to feed them or care for medical needs.

[ex-shep]

I've had to give up animals on several occasions (2 horses and a dog) because I didn't have the financial means to care for them. It does hurt... but there is a sense that even in giving them away you are caring for them properly... rather than holding on to them and not being able to feed them or care for medical needs.

Did visit them. Fidelio looks great. Rose typically shy and flat ear city.

Wife is having problems with adapting to meds. I did give her a goal to work for. Get our finances under control and money saved up and I will buy a Ragamuffin kitten.

[Willow]

I"m saying prayers for you both and the kitties... every day.