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hisdaughter
08-14-2007, 03:13 AM
I was born in a chaos background in a different country, the life is full of strange things,but i still invloved 3 men , long time relationship for each, the longest one is with a man my mom age with no sex thing, and that is my happiest time in my life. the last bf is a christian guy who made me closer to God but damaged me badly in body. Later i even tried homosexual relationship a bit. I m still in the recovery path. I feel like a wreck and no proper help in my country, i m blessed to be given this site.

My question is,If i living in perfect world i would choose to be single forever, but i know in the culture background i m living i must have a marriage, but i can not talk to any man now, I can not love , but i can not involve a woman too it is a sin. My mom is urging me to get married each day cuz of age. I can only pray the lord will let me know what to do. I only want peace......

Sorry this story is so awful.
SpinningHead
08-14-2007, 06:04 AM
Hello Daughter,

Glad you found us!:)

What country are you in? How old are you that marriage is of the essence in your culture? (If you don't mind my asking...)

I wish you were in our country where you don't have to get married if you don't want to or aren't ready to be married. Or maybe I just wish our cultures had that in common.

If you were in a perfect world, none of those bad things would have happened in your life. :( It's very brave of you to want help for yourself. That can be very hard to admit.
ex-shep
08-14-2007, 01:22 PM
You may want to look into Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. I have been in that programme for over 20 years. It has been a life saver. There are international and online meetings.

Books on love addiction by Pia Melodie might provide some perspective. There are also books by Stephen Arterburn from a more Christian perspective.

Take what you like and leave the rest. Hope this helps.


I took a cursory look at the post, but I can easily relate to what you said. Welcome aboard. Make yourself at home. We will see what we can do to help.