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08-05-2007, 07:16 AM
Quotes from LOVE 'A Warm & Wonderful Book About The Largest Experience In Life'
by Leo Buscaglia.
You can only give away what you have.
It's a matter of sharing. Whatever I have I can share with you. I don't lose it because I still have it.
We should all have a tremendous desire to become. If all of life is directed toward the process of
becoming, of growing, of seeing, of feeling, of touching, of smelling, there won't be a boring
second.
We have not sufficiently celebrated the wonderful uniqueness of every individual.
What is often ignored is the X-factor. Something within the _you_ of _you_ that is different from
every single human being, that will determine how you will project in this world, how you will
see this world, how you will become a special human being.
Show me your differences so that maybe I can learn from them.
You can only give what you have to give. You are only you - the only magical combination of
forces that will be and ever has been that can create. You are the best you. You will always be
second best anyone else.
*Labels are distancing phenomena - stop using them!* A loving person won't stand for it. ...
Then this loving person must be one who recognizes responsibility. There is no greater
responsibility in the world than being a human being, and you'd better believe it.
Then I think this loving individual is a person who is spontaneous. This is something that I feel
really, really strongly about because I think that we have lost our ability to be spontaneous.
WE are all marking time, and we are all regimented. WE have forgotten what it is to laugh and to
feel good laughing.
If you feel something (hopefully good), let people know that you feel it. Reach out with your
emotions.
I'm for the old-fashioned thing of touching people. ... I hug everybody - just come close to me,
you're more than likely to get hugged, certainly touched. We need not be afraid to touch, to feel,
to show emotion. The easiest thing in the world to be is what you are, what you feel.
Don't live in the past. live now. ... Catch the beauty of the moment.
We can't be concerned with dying because we must be too damned busy living! Let dying take
care of itself. And don't ever believe that your life is ever going to be peaceful - life is not like
that.
We're all on a fantastic journey! Change & growth take place when a person has risked himself
and dares to become involved with experimenting with his own life. Isn't that fantastic? A person
has risked himself and dared to become involved with experimenting with his own life, trusting
himself. This is frightening because you are dealing with the unknown, and you are shaking
complacency.
I have a very strong feeling that the opposite of love is note hate - it's apathy.
A loving person recognizes needs, he needs people who care, someone who cares at least about
him, who truly sees & hears him.
It's about time we start listening to each other. We need to be heard.
A man needs a feeling of achievement. We all do. We've got to be able to be recognized for
doing something well. Somebody's got to point it out to us, Somebody has got to come up
occasionally and pat us on the shoulder & say, "Wow! That's good. I really like that."
*It would be a miracle if we could let people know what was right rather than always
pointing out what is wrong.*
There are ways to meet needs of society, and still do your own thing. It's knowing where and
when and how. Everybody has his own way and must be allowed the freedom to pursue it.
Everyone will find his own way if he listens to himself. Don't let anybody impose their way on
you.
Look at every path closely & deliberately. Try it many times if you think necessary. Then ask
yourself & yourself one question. "Does this path have a heart?"...Does his path have a heart is
the only question. If it does, then the path is good. If it doesn't, it is of no use. If your path is love
the goal is unimportant, the process will have heart. _You_ can only be "real" on your path. The
hardest thing in the world is to be something you're not.
"Here's me. Takes me for what I am with all my frailties, all my stupidity, and so on. And if you
can't, leave me be. (Don't try to change me)
He (man) is still the creator of his own destiny. He can change this destiny by taking his one
decision to change seriously, by fighting his petty resistance against change and fear, by learning
more about his mind,...by carrying out concrete acts rather than conceptualizing about them.
WE must remind ourselves, however, that no change takes place without working hard and
without getting your hands dirty.
**There is no formulae & no books to memorize on becoming. I only know this: I exist, I am, I
am here, I am becoming, I make my life & no one makes it for me. I must face my own
shortcomings, mistakes, transgressions. No one can suffer my non-being as I do, but tomorrow is
another day, and I must decide to leave my bed and live again. And if I fail, I don't have the
comfort of blaming you or life or God.**
"We are all functioning at a small fraction of our capacity to live fully in its total meaning of
loving, caring, creating and adventuring..." - Herbert Otto
Love is a learned response, a learned emotion. God is love.
If you want to live in love, you must spend as much time as the auto mechanic or the gourmet in
studying love.
In studying love it would be well to consider the following premises:
"One cannot give what he does not possess. To give love you must possess love."
"One cannot know what he does not study. To study love you must live in love"
"One cannot have doubt about that which he wishes to trust. To trust love you must be convinced
of love."
"One cannot admit what he does not yield to, To yield to love you must be vulnerable to love."
One cannot live what he does not dedicate himself to. To dedicate yourself to love you must be
forever growing in love."
*Language is the main means by which we transfer knowledge, attitudes, prejudices, feelings and
those aspects which make personality and culture unique.*
*Love As A Learned Phenomenon*
It's never too late to learn anything for which you have potential. If you want to learn to love,
then you must start the process of finding out what it is, what qualities make up a loving person
and how these are developed.
Love, especially, is learned best in wonder, in joy, in peace, in living.
*Man Needs To Love And Be Loved*
"Scientists are discovering at this very moment that to live as if to live and love were one is only
way of life for human beings, because, indeed, this is the way of life which the innate nature of
man demands." - Ashley Montagu
One can be alone & never feel loneliness and, conversely, one can even feel lonely even when he
is among people. ... Albert Schweitzer stressed this poignantly in his comment that modern man
is so much a part of the crowd that he is dying of personal loneliness.
He discovers that with each deep relationship he's brought closer to himself, that others help him
to gain personal strength and this strength, in turn, makes it more possible for him to face his
aloneness.
In adulthood, we find that the easiest way of being accepted is to be like those by whom we wish
to be accepted. So we conform.
We need others. WE need others to love and we need to be loved by them. There is no doubt that
without it we too, like the infant left alone, would cease to grow, cease to develop, choose
madness & even death.
by Leo Buscaglia.
You can only give away what you have.
It's a matter of sharing. Whatever I have I can share with you. I don't lose it because I still have it.
We should all have a tremendous desire to become. If all of life is directed toward the process of
becoming, of growing, of seeing, of feeling, of touching, of smelling, there won't be a boring
second.
We have not sufficiently celebrated the wonderful uniqueness of every individual.
What is often ignored is the X-factor. Something within the _you_ of _you_ that is different from
every single human being, that will determine how you will project in this world, how you will
see this world, how you will become a special human being.
Show me your differences so that maybe I can learn from them.
You can only give what you have to give. You are only you - the only magical combination of
forces that will be and ever has been that can create. You are the best you. You will always be
second best anyone else.
*Labels are distancing phenomena - stop using them!* A loving person won't stand for it. ...
Then this loving person must be one who recognizes responsibility. There is no greater
responsibility in the world than being a human being, and you'd better believe it.
Then I think this loving individual is a person who is spontaneous. This is something that I feel
really, really strongly about because I think that we have lost our ability to be spontaneous.
WE are all marking time, and we are all regimented. WE have forgotten what it is to laugh and to
feel good laughing.
If you feel something (hopefully good), let people know that you feel it. Reach out with your
emotions.
I'm for the old-fashioned thing of touching people. ... I hug everybody - just come close to me,
you're more than likely to get hugged, certainly touched. We need not be afraid to touch, to feel,
to show emotion. The easiest thing in the world to be is what you are, what you feel.
Don't live in the past. live now. ... Catch the beauty of the moment.
We can't be concerned with dying because we must be too damned busy living! Let dying take
care of itself. And don't ever believe that your life is ever going to be peaceful - life is not like
that.
We're all on a fantastic journey! Change & growth take place when a person has risked himself
and dares to become involved with experimenting with his own life. Isn't that fantastic? A person
has risked himself and dared to become involved with experimenting with his own life, trusting
himself. This is frightening because you are dealing with the unknown, and you are shaking
complacency.
I have a very strong feeling that the opposite of love is note hate - it's apathy.
A loving person recognizes needs, he needs people who care, someone who cares at least about
him, who truly sees & hears him.
It's about time we start listening to each other. We need to be heard.
A man needs a feeling of achievement. We all do. We've got to be able to be recognized for
doing something well. Somebody's got to point it out to us, Somebody has got to come up
occasionally and pat us on the shoulder & say, "Wow! That's good. I really like that."
*It would be a miracle if we could let people know what was right rather than always
pointing out what is wrong.*
There are ways to meet needs of society, and still do your own thing. It's knowing where and
when and how. Everybody has his own way and must be allowed the freedom to pursue it.
Everyone will find his own way if he listens to himself. Don't let anybody impose their way on
you.
Look at every path closely & deliberately. Try it many times if you think necessary. Then ask
yourself & yourself one question. "Does this path have a heart?"...Does his path have a heart is
the only question. If it does, then the path is good. If it doesn't, it is of no use. If your path is love
the goal is unimportant, the process will have heart. _You_ can only be "real" on your path. The
hardest thing in the world is to be something you're not.
"Here's me. Takes me for what I am with all my frailties, all my stupidity, and so on. And if you
can't, leave me be. (Don't try to change me)
He (man) is still the creator of his own destiny. He can change this destiny by taking his one
decision to change seriously, by fighting his petty resistance against change and fear, by learning
more about his mind,...by carrying out concrete acts rather than conceptualizing about them.
WE must remind ourselves, however, that no change takes place without working hard and
without getting your hands dirty.
**There is no formulae & no books to memorize on becoming. I only know this: I exist, I am, I
am here, I am becoming, I make my life & no one makes it for me. I must face my own
shortcomings, mistakes, transgressions. No one can suffer my non-being as I do, but tomorrow is
another day, and I must decide to leave my bed and live again. And if I fail, I don't have the
comfort of blaming you or life or God.**
"We are all functioning at a small fraction of our capacity to live fully in its total meaning of
loving, caring, creating and adventuring..." - Herbert Otto
Love is a learned response, a learned emotion. God is love.
If you want to live in love, you must spend as much time as the auto mechanic or the gourmet in
studying love.
In studying love it would be well to consider the following premises:
"One cannot give what he does not possess. To give love you must possess love."
"One cannot know what he does not study. To study love you must live in love"
"One cannot have doubt about that which he wishes to trust. To trust love you must be convinced
of love."
"One cannot admit what he does not yield to, To yield to love you must be vulnerable to love."
One cannot live what he does not dedicate himself to. To dedicate yourself to love you must be
forever growing in love."
*Language is the main means by which we transfer knowledge, attitudes, prejudices, feelings and
those aspects which make personality and culture unique.*
*Love As A Learned Phenomenon*
It's never too late to learn anything for which you have potential. If you want to learn to love,
then you must start the process of finding out what it is, what qualities make up a loving person
and how these are developed.
Love, especially, is learned best in wonder, in joy, in peace, in living.
*Man Needs To Love And Be Loved*
"Scientists are discovering at this very moment that to live as if to live and love were one is only
way of life for human beings, because, indeed, this is the way of life which the innate nature of
man demands." - Ashley Montagu
One can be alone & never feel loneliness and, conversely, one can even feel lonely even when he
is among people. ... Albert Schweitzer stressed this poignantly in his comment that modern man
is so much a part of the crowd that he is dying of personal loneliness.
He discovers that with each deep relationship he's brought closer to himself, that others help him
to gain personal strength and this strength, in turn, makes it more possible for him to face his
aloneness.
In adulthood, we find that the easiest way of being accepted is to be like those by whom we wish
to be accepted. So we conform.
We need others. WE need others to love and we need to be loved by them. There is no doubt that
without it we too, like the infant left alone, would cease to grow, cease to develop, choose
madness & even death.