Need some advices...

[susiegg]

I have a female friend , she was abused by her own dad sexually from 9-18, then got kicked off , because she started to fight , and later she dated different men, led a bad life, involved in porn industry, got std, and she was involving with a unchristian guy,but started to really back to God, prayed a lot each day, because of her hearlth, most of the time, she was online getting christian counseling,the unchristian guy seemed to treat her well,paid for her health and everything, himself is poor, but sometimes still wanted her to do sex i guess. then she met a married christian man on some forum, whose wife is in an overseas missionary trip, while the girl was in danger and etc, the man took her away from that unchristian man, and took her back to his house. He is just over 40, his wife much elder than him, they r with no kids.she is around 25, and the man's wife knew this , not sure why she just could not accept , and she is now signing for divorce. the man got heartbroken, but just a few days ago the girl told that he became her boyfriend.

I do not know what to tell to her. I feel there r so many darkness powerful things there, i can not handle.

[Elisabeth]

I think you're right. There's so much there that only a professional can handle. Me, I think that any "Christian" guy that would fool around on his wife is much worse for her to get involved with than the "unChristian" guy who treated her good! (I would question whether that "Christian" guy is really Christian, or if he just is so on the outside!)

[Anna Marta]

Sounds to me like your female friend has gone from the frying pan into the fire... My advice would be - tell her to get out of the middle of someone else's marriage. Married men CANNOT be boyfriends... the word for that is ADULTERY.

Sounds like she is looking for a father and protector. Get her to a counselor and recommend she stay out of relationships with men until she gets her life straightened out.

Love and prayers
Anna Marta

[SpinningHead]

Wow. tough one!

What concerns do you have for your friendship?
Does your friend even want to do the right thing?

[Ladybug]

I strongly suggest professional counseling for your friend. You can support her by being there for her.

I agree that she shouldn't have any involvment with men single/married until her own life is back on track. Already with her having std, why compound her own health? Why infect someone else?

Hope this helps. I think with counseling and support your friend can possibly turn her life around and see something good.

[Elisabeth]

You know, it's difficult to be friends with people like that, and a lot of Christians don't try because of the sins, because of the helpless feelings, because they don't know what to do, etc. You have a lot of love in your heart, Susie! :)