Seeing a new counselor later on today

[Ladybug]

Hi,

I will be meeting with a new counselor at 11:AM today. I'd appreciate prayer support as far as seeing if this is where the Lord wants me. That there would be a good fit.

The reason for going is in view of when the Lord takes my Momma home, I've some outside Christian support. Then the other reason is because of being in more contact with the one who assualted me.

I know I'm not the only one having a hard time with Mother's Day. I had wanted to go and to be with Momma this weekend. Unless something happens between now and Sunday. Looks like I'll be here. I know my oldest sister is busy in taking care of things for Momma. This weekend is the yard sale...It still doesn't set well with me as far as not being able to see Momma. My other sister went to help with the yard sale. I wanted to ask her to pick me up on her way.... Here I sit. Yesterday was a hard day emotionally for me. I'm not even sure if I want to be in church, bc when I sit still everything catches up with me emotionally....I want others to be able to enjoy Sunday.

Anyhow thanks for listening and for the prayer support.

Thank you in advance for the prayer support.

[Anna Marta]

Dear Ladybug,

Of course you will be in my prayers this weekend and afterwards too. Your pain is so evident in your words. I am hoping you and this counselor will be able to have a good relationship that enables healing for you.

God bless you
Anna Marta

[Jerry]

I'm not even sure if I want to be in church, bc when I sit still everything catches up with me emotionally....

Dear Ladybug,,,,
I think the problem is that you are not letting "everything" catch up,,,but allowing the gravity of the present to distort your vision.....We all have that horrible future to face one day....That certain "deterioration & death".....When that time arrives we need our loved ones around us to remember ;) If all we do is focus on the wilted and dieing remains,,,,,,we miss the beauty of the flower,,,,,,,,,,,,,,when the "Beauty of the Flower" was always the point ;)
Love Jerry

[Elisabeth]

Hi,

I will be meeting with a new counselor at 11:AM today. I'd appreciate prayer support as far as seeing if this is where the Lord wants me. That there would be a good fit.

The reason for going is in view of when the Lord takes my Momma home, I've some outside Christian support. Then the other reason is because of being in more contact with the one who assualted me.

I know I'm not the only one having a hard time with Mother's Day. I had wanted to go and to be with Momma this weekend. Unless something happens between now and Sunday. Looks like I'll be here. I know my oldest sister is busy in taking care of things for Momma. This weekend is the yard sale...It still doesn't set well with me as far as not being able to see Momma. My other sister went to help with the yard sale. I wanted to ask her to pick me up on her way.... Here I sit. Yesterday was a hard day emotionally for me. I'm not even sure if I want to be in church, bc when I sit still everything catches up with me emotionally....I want others to be able to enjoy Sunday.

Anyhow thanks for listening and for the prayer support.

Thank you in advance for the prayer support.

Ladybug,

As you know, my own mother passed away six weeks ago. The deterioration was extremely difficult for me to go through, too. Anyway, I found a few things that will probably help me through Sunday; maybe you can take some ideas away from it.

1. I am not going to go to church on Sunday; I am not ready for a mother's day service. During the deterioration time I did go to church every Mother's Day, and I enjoyed it; but I also knew that I was going to see Mom later in the day.
2. I am going to go to the cemetery where Mom is at, up in Phoenix. My daughter is going to meet me there, too.
3. I am going to spend a good part of the afternoon with my daughter and grandsons, just goofing around, playing in the pool, etc.

With these ideas, I am no longer not looking forward to Sunday; in fact, I think I might actually have a good time! :) I know a lot of it is spending time with the loved ones who are here. Hope this gives you some ideas.

[abbey]

You are in my prayers Ladybug!

[Anna Marta]

Ladybug,

As you know, my own mother passed away six weeks ago. The deterioration was extremely difficult for me to go through, too. Anyway, I found a few things that will probably help me through Sunday; maybe you can take some ideas away from it.

1. I am not going to go to church on Sunday; I am not ready for a mother's day service. During the deterioration time I did go to church every Mother's Day, and I enjoyed it; but I also knew that I was going to see Mom later in the day.
2. I am going to go to the cemetery where Mom is at, up in Phoenix. My daughter is going to meet me there, too.
3. I am going to spend a good part of the afternoon with my daughter and grandsons, just goofing around, playing in the pool, etc.

With these ideas, I am no longer not looking forward to Sunday; in fact, I think I might actually have a good time! :) I know a lot of it is spending time with the loved ones who are here. Hope this gives you some ideas.

Dear Ladybug,

Sounds like a GREAT plan to me! I am praying you will be comforted and blessed. Hope you will be able to enjoy BEING a loved Mother with her child and grandchildren. Your mom's time and season is completed, but yours is not. May your time and season be a good one creating wonderful memories for your children. It an honor to be a Mom. Roll around in the moments of joy it brings and let the sunshine warm your heart and a rainbow color your day.

Love
Anna Marta

[Anna Marta]

Oh Geeze have I stepped in it! :eek:

SO sorry I answered Elizabeth's post thinking it was yours Ladybug.

My heart goes out to you Ladybug! I pray you will be comforted.

Love
Anna Marta

[Elisabeth]

Sounds like a GREAT plan to me! I am praying you will be comforted and blessed. Hope you will be able to enjoy BEING a loved Mother with her child and grandchildren. Your mom's time and season is completed, but yours is not. May your time and season be a good one creating wonderful memories for your children. It an honor to be a Mom. Roll around in the moments of joy it brings and let the sunshine warm your heart and a rainbow color your day.

Love
Anna Marta

Thanks, Anna Marta!!!:D :D :D (I don't think you stepped in it too badly! :p )

[Ladybug]

Thank you all for you suggestions and prayer support.

Today's session went very well. I'll be seeing the oounselor after my visit with my Mom. I'll be out of town next week, but I'll access to a computer and can keep up with the forum.

In view of Sunday, I can and do appreciate all the Mom's that will be there. I know there will be one's there who are grieving the home going of their Mom. This is their first Mother's Day without Mom.

For where I'm at emotionally, I just don't know....I do have a good support system at church. I think part of my "problem" is that I know it's a time to celebrate and I don't want my pain to over shadow the celebration is that makes sense. I hurt in away that I can't really describe. I'm thankful, Momma is still with us. I did send her a card.

I did pick up on something the counselor said that when someone is termmly ill. The pre-grieving process begins. I can agree with that statement.

I haven't been sitting and dwelling on negative situation. I've been remembering the good times of celebrating Mother's Day.

Anyhow, it's been a good day, but a long day. I think the best thing for now, is to call it a day and go to bed.

[Jerry]

Dear Ladybug,,,,
Perhaps you being of the insect world (screen name reference) can answer a question for me...............When the "Butterfly" takes wing,,,,is the "Caterpillar" dead ??????
Love Jerry

[Elisabeth]

I did pick up on something the counselor said that when someone is termmly ill. The pre-grieving process begins. I can agree with that statement.

I haven't been sitting and dwelling on negative situation. I've been remembering the good times of celebrating Mother's Day.


I've heard the pre-grieving process called anticipitory grief. I went through that, and had counselors, too. The last six months of my mother's life she was on hospice care, so I had a counselor through hospice. And anticipitory grief can be as strong as the grief after the loved one dies, because you know they are going to die, and you are helpless to stop it.

I like that, not dwelling on the negative and remembering the good times of celebrating Mother's Day. I think I need to do that too. :)

[Elisabeth]

Dear Ladybug,,,,
Perhaps you being of the insect world (screen name reference) can answer a question for me...............When the "Butterfly" takes wing,,,,is the "Caterpillar" dead ??????
Love Jerry

I like that. It's really profound.

[Ladybug]

Ladybug is just a "name," and no I'm not into insects. Jerry, I would "think" when the Butterfly spreads it's wing then the catapiller is dead. Like, II Cor. 5:17, "If any man be in Christ, he is a new creation. Behold old things pass away and all things become new." It's a progressive growth and isn't an instant transformation. I think as the catapiller developes into the Butterfly is a good example of this verse.

[Ladybug]

Elisabeth,

Thanks for your explanation, this helps me to understand "me" a little better and the process of things.

[Ladybug]

Hi,

I did make it for church today. It was good to be with everyone. The message was encouraging. It wasn't a typical "Mother's Day" message.

I'll be visiting my Mom this coming week. I'd appreciate some extra prayer support. It's been several weeks since I've seen Momma. I've got mixed feelings about seeing her. Momma is doing very well with her PT and is in good spirits. I know the Lord is answering my prayer in not letting her suffer and be in pain. But for her to be able to enjoy however many days the Lord has for her.

Thanks again for those of you listening and praying. :)