QueenKnitter
02-04-2007, 05:03 AM
A dear friend recommended Families Where Grace is in Place. I overheard her talking about "spiritual abuse" which was a new term to me. Googling the term only revealed that a lot of people were just putting old-fashioned bad management under that term. I mean, if it could happen at Microsoft or GM, could it be *spiritual* abuse? I decided to start with the creators of the term -- Johnson and VanVonderen.
<jawdrop>
While I read that, I kept praying, "This isn't going on here, is it? Please no. Not here. No, no, no, no. . . ."
Of course, you know the rest of the story. I saw it everywhere. I had just been spared of a lot of it. Those under my charge, however, were getting it left and right.
Then a year ago, I was told to edit my blog because so-n-so didn't approve of it? Oh? Really? A few things were before I found my blog voice. They were silly. But one? One was in the context of a prayer about conceiving my next child (the wiggly one I hold in my arms right now. Amen.). I just had a simple link to a book about nursing. So-n-so found that offensive. I changed the other things, but I said, "I'm keeping that link. 'Nuff said." :mad:
Then I bought about a dozen Tired of Trying to Measure Up. I gave them away to everyone. EVERYONE. It got back to so-n-so. That ended with several confrontations of me -- the latest was when I was told, "VanVonderen has terribly flawed theology. He believes you can work hard to perfect yourself." Uh . . . .no. Have you read the title? I finally said, "Look. If you want me to stop recommending that book, I'm okay with that. I'll just recommend people read Galatians and Romans instead." So-n-so's sidekick didn't even catch it.
And now I sit in the middle of a whole mess of attempts to SA me. If you say to your abuser(s), "NO!" does that stop it? I dunno. . . . Now they are telling me to edit much, much more than my blog (although my blog has gotten a lot more polemical. I figure, "Oh, I know so-n-so's reading it, so I'll talk to him!"
Sorry. Just had to reminisce. Thanks for listening.
QK
<jawdrop>
While I read that, I kept praying, "This isn't going on here, is it? Please no. Not here. No, no, no, no. . . ."
Of course, you know the rest of the story. I saw it everywhere. I had just been spared of a lot of it. Those under my charge, however, were getting it left and right.
Then a year ago, I was told to edit my blog because so-n-so didn't approve of it? Oh? Really? A few things were before I found my blog voice. They were silly. But one? One was in the context of a prayer about conceiving my next child (the wiggly one I hold in my arms right now. Amen.). I just had a simple link to a book about nursing. So-n-so found that offensive. I changed the other things, but I said, "I'm keeping that link. 'Nuff said." :mad:
Then I bought about a dozen Tired of Trying to Measure Up. I gave them away to everyone. EVERYONE. It got back to so-n-so. That ended with several confrontations of me -- the latest was when I was told, "VanVonderen has terribly flawed theology. He believes you can work hard to perfect yourself." Uh . . . .no. Have you read the title? I finally said, "Look. If you want me to stop recommending that book, I'm okay with that. I'll just recommend people read Galatians and Romans instead." So-n-so's sidekick didn't even catch it.
And now I sit in the middle of a whole mess of attempts to SA me. If you say to your abuser(s), "NO!" does that stop it? I dunno. . . . Now they are telling me to edit much, much more than my blog (although my blog has gotten a lot more polemical. I figure, "Oh, I know so-n-so's reading it, so I'll talk to him!"
Sorry. Just had to reminisce. Thanks for listening.
QK