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[jackie021]

Hello People!

I am glad to have found this forum.

I started attending an Al Anon meeting online about a month ago. I am enjoying it. But my situation has a twist, that is the active A in my life is also the spiritual abuser. I have been married for 20 years, we have 4 teenagers we have homeschooled from birth. The oldest is in college now.

I dont even know where to begin to explain the journey except to say God is my source of everything and in Him is rest!

I have spent much time considering spiritual abuse, alcoholism and how to grow in a personal relationship with God. I am excited about being here on this forum where the glory can be given to God for recovery. He WILL have the glory! One of the traits of a spiritual abuser is glory-grabbing.

Hoping to get to know you all better!
Jackie

[Doug64]

Hi Jackie and welcome.


Quite a number of folks here who have experiences running the gamut of life.

Post as much as you like as often as you like.

:cool: Doug

[Emerging]

Hi Jackie! It's great to meet you! Doug is right that there are a huge range of experiences here, with "abuse survivor" possibly being about all that "everyone" has in common. Oh, and that we are all humans ... except for my daughter who is so disgusted with humans right now that she declares herself to be an alien. ;) Hope to hear more from you over time. :)

[Alice]

Hi, Jackie, and welcome to the forum....everyone is wonderful here....My story is a very long one, so will give you the Reader's Digest version. Married for 31 years to a verbal abuser; got a divorce, allowed him to live with me afterward (he chose to treat me better); afater 2 years he is back to the abuse (typical), and I now am in a fight for my life and sanity; getting ready to tell him to go....my church of 31 years voted me out of a (legalistic, I realize now) membership; I fought the system for 18 months to try and stop the pastor (of disaster) from counseling any more women, because 2 of them wanted to commit suicide...in the end, my name was up on a big screen in front of the congregation, followed by the words: CONDUCT UNBECOMING A CHILD OF GOD.....I was called to ameeting of the deacons and not allowed to take a woman with me, and asked if I was "still having sex with my e x"----segue to 2 years later; I wrote every person in that church and told them --this is what you did...this is how it made me feel----called Restorative Justice---the best words I ever heard--learned from my (gift f rom God) therapist/expert in spiritual abuse....i then wrote the pastor and requested the Biblical restitution for damages for what I had to spend in therapy; both my therapist and attorney thought he wuldn;'t take me seriously.....I did.....and he did.......I am in negotiations with the church's insurance company...well, that's it for now...briefly....wonderful to meet you and I look forward to getting to know you. Hugs n Love, Alice--Oh, P.S. The result of being kicked out of church was my website: www.churchabusepoetrytherapy.com....something beautiful came out of the ashes---over 160 poems of anguish/healing and comfort for anyone hurting.....over 4,000 hits in less than a year, and I have met some incredible people from all over the world....hugs....