Wise Words

[Anna Marta]

I hereby would like to encourage everyone to boycott any antagonizing posts on the forum.

Who needs this kind of hostility? None of us do. It does not promote emotional recovery at all - it impedes it. It always takes two to tango. If we choose not to engage in conflict, it cannot happen. Just think about it... we actually do have the ability to control it. It doesn't have to happen, and we have the power as a group to disallow it. All it takes is a little control. When you feel tempted to return fire... just put your pistol away. Then the hostile threads will fall to the bottom and they will be gone. Once the perpetrator realizes he cannot get you to react and chase his dangling carrot, he will either give up and leave, or try to become a functional member of the forum.

We have the power to do this. No one has control over us anymore.

:cool:


Hi,
In reviewing past posts from the forum, I came upon this one and wanted to post it bc I thought it was so good.

[butterfly]

Hi,
In reviewing past posts from the forum, I came upon this one and wanted to post it bc I thought it was so good.


Yes Anna this is a good one and I have recived something out of the post.

"When you are tempted to return fire....just put your pistol away"

I have tried this and it works for me.:D

butterfly shirley

[Reg]

Good thread. That is what I have done all along.

Red flags go up when someone comes here and begins to stir things up without first introducing
themselves. It is only common courtesy when you go to someone’s house, you first introduce
yourself before they let you in.

It’s the same here. For the most part, we are anonymous here. It takes a little while for each of us
to get to know each other. For a stranger to come here and start right in with a manipulative post
should be a clue that they are not here to heal and recover. I become very suspicious of people
like this.

If they are really here for the right reason, it will become evident after a few posts. If not, it will
also become evident. It isn’t that difficult to spot a counterfeit once you know the genuine article.
We have had imposters come here before.

So, when someone comes here without a brief introduction allowing us to get to know the person
a little first, be cautious. Anyone with a little common sense, especially if they have been SA’d
should know that one of our biggest issues is trusting. How can we really take what they
post seriously until we get to know them a bit first. To start right in with a manipulative post
should be a red flag for all of us.

Who is this person? If they want to be accepted and really find support, common courtesy would
be to tell us a bit about who they are and what they went through.

[DiligentLily]

Yes, I think I saw this happen recently. A new member posted some long-winded scolding sermon in response to someone's pain, and told them that they shouldn't complain because we are all here on earth to suffer. Lot's of scripture quotes. I think he was ignored away, but I'm not sure. About a month ago. So it can happen.

And I think that if the offending contributor was not really that bad, and was open and willing to learn from the forum, they would probably just adjust themselves to the ethic and try to post something that gets responded to.

[exwitchoz]

Whoa!!!!

I've obviously missed a LOT while I was away licking my own wounds...

God has His own timing and purpose... it is certainly not mine... but I am learning to appreciate His more and more...

As fragile as I was I would not have handled a lot of what has apparently happened here at the Forums... and so - in His mercy - God had me licking my wounds in private as I said...

It's strange how we do not see the Lord's hand until after the storm has passed... when after all He is the one who controls the wind and the waves...

Just an observation on my own circumstances...

PLEASE... don't anyone take it as anything more than that...

[Voyager]

I wish I would have remembered my own advice. Sometimes when we get triggered by something, we seem to lose all sense of wisdom and balance. It's as if we feel the need to get back the control that we lost. But as we try to do this, we lose more control over the situation.

Thank you Anna for reminding me of that post.

:cool:

[Anna Marta]

Welcome Back Oz :D

Good to hear God has been protecting your heart. SO glad to have you back with your down under special ways. G'day! (was that right?)

Hope you're okay and all the licking has helped. You are valued.

Warm Norwegian hugs on their way south. we're freezing and you're sweating. :cool:

Anna Marta

[exwitchoz]

Welcome Back Oz :D

Good to hear God has been protecting your heart. SO glad to have you back with your down under special ways. G'day! (was that right?)

Hope you're okay and all the licking has helped. You are valued.

Warm Norwegian hugs on their way south. we're freezing and you're sweating. :cool:

Anna Marta

Glad to be back AM... :)

And yeah ... you got it right... G'day to you too... LOL!!! :D

...and you can bet your reindeer we're sweating down here... 39C (103F) tomorrow... and it's not even Summer yet... :eek:

I have a soft spot for Norway.... My youngest brother has been to Oslo and also travelled all over Scandinavia... fell in love with the place... almost married an Estonian girl he met there in Norge in fact...

I myself have only seen snow twice in my life... once in 'puddles' but once a few inches worth.... my brother tells me I haven't lived yet... he skated across a fjord... LOL!!!!

[secrethopes]

Hi,
In reviewing past posts from the forum, I came upon this one and wanted to post it bc I thought it was so good.

I was just musing over the same thing yesterday. I find it helps to not respond immediately to any post. I try to remember to stop and pray before responding. Since we are all writing, rather than face to face, we can pause the conversation if we need to. And we can decide not to respond if we fear we might not be nice or that we might not express our point correctly. ;)

[exwitchoz]

I was just musing over the same thing yesterday. I find it helps to not respond immediately to any post. I try to remember to stop and pray before responding. Since we are all writing, rather than face to face, we can pause the conversation if we need to. And we can decide not to respond if we fear we might not be nice or that we might not express our point correctly. ;)

I for one have ALWAYS bemoaned the fact there is not a "RETRACT" key next the "ENTER/SUBMIT" one...

[Anna Marta]

I myself have only seen snow twice in my life... once in 'puddles' but once a few inches worth.... my brother tells me I haven't lived yet... he skated across a fjord... LOL!!!!

Here comes the challenge! Come on up! Your room is ready complete with a piece of chocolate on the pillow. Our home overlooks a fjord. See a few pics at www.garhovd.net

Hugs,
Anna Marta and the Viking

[DiligentLily]

Anna, I looked at the pictures (beautiful house!!!), but I have a question--are you named after the CAT?!? :D

[butterfly]

Ahhhhhhh saw the pictures.:D :D

I wish I was there.:D The kids are so cute.

You live near the ocean or is it a lake??

I was sure at the cookout near the beach lobster was for the meal. Nope crab I like crap would you pick mine out please. I am lazy. Hee Hee

I love the cats real cute.

It is so pretty there. Blessed are you and hubby Anna.:D butterfly shirley

[exwitchoz]

Here comes the challenge! Come on up! Your room is ready complete with a piece of chocolate on the pillow. Our home overlooks a fjord. See a few pics at www.garhovd.net

Hugs,
Anna Marta and the Viking

WOW!!!! Too Cool for words Anna... :)

On my budget it may take a while... a l-o-n-g L-O-N-G while... before I got there... LOL!!! ...but I'd love to see it in person one day... and get to meet you and your Viking man... any lil' Vikings???

btw... I have long blonde hair - way past my shoulders ...and a full face beard... Can I be an honourary Norseman? LOL!!! :D

*sings* A-Viking we will go... A-Viking we will go... Hey! Hoh! A-dairy-oh... A-Viking we will go...

[Anna Marta]

Hello all,

Caught! Yes, my screen name is my pussy cat's name! But we don't look alike! Here's a hint, my given name is the same at Jacob's first wife... :rolleyes:

Below our house is a fjord and they look just like lakes... only with rocks cause they were carved out by glaciers (a few years ago)

The crabs pics were taken on a tiny island off shore "Borøye" (there are hundreds of islands) can only get there by boat.

Exwitchoz -

You sound like you would fit right in just provide you with a helmet and sword and we could make money taking your picture for the tourists! :D ROFLOL! :D
Snow we get plenty of and ice till you want to scream at it to go away. We live on the side of this small mountain and the intersection at the bottom of the hill is called "the valley of the shadow of death" cause it never gets sun and stays frozen till after Easter - kind of hope the car stops before you glide across into the ravine.

We have had full fall storms the past 24 hours and it has been a wild Norway outside. The ferries between Denmark and Norway have been stuck out in the ocean unable to dock on either side. :eek: :mad:

Have a great day everyone!
Anna Marta

[Willow]

btw... I have long blonde hair - way past my shoulders ...and a full face beard... Can I be an honourary Norseman? LOL!!! :D


oh my gawd!!! biker chick here... loving the thought of long blonde hair and beard!!!

[exwitchoz]

Exwitchoz -

You sound like you would fit right in just provide you with a helmet and sword and we could make money taking your picture for the tourists! :D ROFLOL! :D

ROFL... Well here's a pic of me - it's about 10 years old now - in pseudo-Viking garb...

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v280/bornagainpagan/Falcon_and_Willow.jpg
"That will be 20 Euro's a photo..." :D

oh my gawd!!! biker chick here... loving the thought of long blonde hair and beard!!!

LOL... Well here's two more recent photo's than the one above... about 12 months old... so add maybe two inches of hair... LOL

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v280/bornagainpagan/AAA.jpg

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v280/bornagainpagan/AA3.jpg

[Anna Marta]

ROFL... Well here's a pic of me - it's about 10 years old now - in pseudo-Viking garb...

Definitely viking material! :cool:

AM :D

[Willow]

You'd fit right in with the rednecks in Tennessee too! LOL
My pics are all on http://www.myspace.com/amyswerld... unfortunately they make you register as a user to see all the pics... although you have a good shot of my eyeball here :)

[exwitchoz]

So it seems I fit in Oz... with the Vikings... and the rednecks huh? ;)

*holds high his Vegemite toast and a drinking horn full of Coors* G'Day ...and Wassail... y'all... :D

Cool photo's Amy ... the Southern Thunder Run looks like it was fun... :)

[mary]

Here comes the challenge! Come on up! Your room is ready complete with a piece of chocolate on the pillow. Our home overlooks a fjord. See a few pics at www.garhovd.net (http://www.garhovd.net)

Hugs,
Anna Marta and the Viking

Wow! (((((Anna Marta)))))), I've just looked at your pics!!!! YOU ARE GORGEOUS!!!! (Yes, I'm shouting! ;) :p ) And your home and its grounds are beautiful!!!!

Thank you so very much for posting this link!!! I hope you add to it frequently - and very belated Happy Birthday, my dear friend!!!!

Love,

mary