Another funeral...

[SpinningHead]

hey everyone.

Sorry I haven't been around. Been having some down time...yesterday I never got out of bed and that's really ok w/ me considering how hard I've been working lately.

So get this...we've remained very close w/ a couple from our old church to which we haven't been to in over a year now. Our friend's father died over the weekend...tonight is the wake and he called us to say they need us/our support for tomorrow's funeral and family function, etc. Yup. You guessed where the funeral will be...at our old church. I always said I wouldn't ever go back unless it was like a funeral. I know that obviously it's not about me...it's about supporting our good friends who were of the very few who supported us during our time. And I'll keep telling myself that...but secretly I'll admit to you (my safe place) that I'm nervous and don't want to see the rest of them again. If you remember, I just mentioned that my X-past precided over the baby's funeral that I just attended last Monday.

At the first funeral, Mrs. X-Past told my hubby that it's awful that the devil caused so much destruction between us and how much they miss us...I wasn't there but as soon as he told me I thought, "so...is she admitting the building committee & the CM/Head of trustees are devils??"

I don't know...I need hot chocolate. Thanks for the vent.

[Anna Marta]

Dear Spinninghead,

Drink your hot chocolate slowly and savor every mouthful. I promise to pray for you for tomorrow. Remember over here we're ahead of you time wise, so the prayers are going up before your feet touch the floor in the morning. :)

BTW, what would those people do if the devil wasn't kind enough to let them blame him?!? :eek:

Remember what happened to Daniel in that lion's den? He was with the man-eaters and probably had to walk around in their muck, but they couldn't get him! Some things are Daniel experiences, I pray this is one for you and you'll come out having seen the power of the God of Israel to save and protect you. May you wipe the muck off your feet on the way out again! :D

Hugs
Anna Marta

[Jerry]

Dear Spinninghead,,,,
It is interesting to me that your friend would want you there in spite of the history..................The one fact speeks volumes about you ;) Yes if you go it will with out a doubt stress you out,,,,,,it will make you feel awful........If you go you will have to act in direct oppisition to your own best interest...A sane person would never do that.......No one requires you to do that,,,,you have the option to lead an orderly peaceful life..........I don't know what to tell you but ,,,,,2000 years ago a guy acted against his own best interest for me ;) ....................sometimes we got to be a friend no matter what the cost ;)

Love Jerry

[SpinningHead]

Dear Spinninghead,,,,
It is interesting to me that your friend would want you there in spite of the history..................The one fact speeks volumes about you ;) Yes if you go it will with out a doubt stress you out,,,,,,it will make you feel awful........If you go you will have to act in direct oppisition to your own best interest...A sane person would never do that.......No one requires you to do that,,,,you have the option to lead an orderly peaceful life..........I don't know what to tell you but ,,,,,2000 years ago a guy acted against his own best interest for me ;) ....................sometimes we got to be a friend no matter what the cost ;)

Love Jerry

Our friends told us that if we didn't go they would understand...hubby feels that he needs to be there for his friend because that is what matters. I agree w/ hubby...these friends have really been there for us in tough times and even confronted the leadership on our behalf only to have their own S/A happen. Either one of us feels that this church should get in the way of us supporting our friends. I'm just feeling strong and weird at the same time.


BTW, what would those people do if the devil wasn't kind enough to let them blame him?!?

I am cracking up!! That is exactly something I would say!! HA!!:D

[Theodora]

Hard situation indeed. Will be praying for true "discernment" as to what is best for all...including YOU! Do take care of yourself, even as you try to support others as well.

You are special.

Love,

Theodora



hey everyone.

Sorry I haven't been around. Been having some down time...yesterday I never got out of bed and that's really ok w/ me considering how hard I've been working lately.

So get this...we've remained very close w/ a couple from our old church to which we haven't been to in over a year now. Our friend's father died over the weekend...tonight is the wake and he called us to say they need us/our support for tomorrow's funeral and family function, etc. Yup. You guessed where the funeral will be...at our old church. I always said I wouldn't ever go back unless it was like a funeral. I know that obviously it's not about me...it's about supporting our good friends who were of the very few who supported us during our time. And I'll keep telling myself that...but secretly I'll admit to you (my safe place) that I'm nervous and don't want to see the rest of them again. If you remember, I just mentioned that my X-past precided over the baby's funeral that I just attended last Monday.

At the first funeral, Mrs. X-Past told my hubby that it's awful that the devil caused so much destruction between us and how much they miss us...I wasn't there but as soon as he told me I thought, "so...is she admitting the building committee & the CM/Head of trustees are devils??"

I don't know...I need hot chocolate. Thanks for the vent.

[beginagainrose]

This just happend to my hubby and me at the funeral of our sweet neighbor... we felt like the pink elephant in the room. I am realizing you may be there as I write this, so I stopped to pray for you. We were as gracious as we could be and tried to walk in love but kept our distance from pastorman... I just prayed for your protection and covering and that the Lord would help you to walk in grace and show you when it was time to leave... hope it went well.:)

[Jerry]

Dear SpinningHead,,,,,
Your Hubby,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,is a pretty special guy ;)
Love Jerry

[ex-shep]

I do not know if I need to pray for discernment or a body guard. I had a similar set up a year after I left my group. I lost my friend George to a oneness pentecostal group. It was wild scene I escaped for my emotional life. I had a high school buddy who was also a college friend of George.

Teddy, the high school buddy, was getting married in 1985. Fortunately I already made arrangements with Teddy that if George were to come to the wedding, I would have to decline the invitation. Thankfully the Bible school was well known in the area, so there were no hard feelings when Teddy found out that George was coming. It was a scary situation.

[Jo Jo]

Take care of yourself Spinninghead and remember we will all be thinking of you and supporting you.

[SpinningHead]

Well, we went from "when are you having kids?" to "what church are you going to now?" :rolleyes:

2 of the couples (including the visiting pastor!) who always supported us never left our side throughout the day! And many of the older people were very glad to see us but I know were out of the loop when everything went down.

All in all I was glad to be there for our friends, the pastor was decent to us, which I didn't expect anything different and the talk was cheery. So it was an ok day...for a funeral. I'm glad it's over...very long day.

After the funeral we visited my friend in the hospital (the very one who's grandchild died last week) but she's being released today so PTL!

Thanks to you all for all your support! You have no idea how much it means to me.
:)