Anna Marta
09-19-2006, 02:21 AM
Good morning from up here near the top of the world... (where Steinar as says our little country is running the world but no one seems to know it :eek: )
Yesterday I was researching a bit and found this place http://www.geocities.com/vaksam/faq58.html
It is a description of a narcissist. It described my pastor nearly perfectly. I shall give a little overview, however for more detail check it out further.
"Haughty" body language, a physical posture which implies and exudes an air of superiority, seniority, hidden powers, mysteriousness, amused indifference, etc.
Entitlement markers ...asks for "special treatment" of some kind the narcissist reacts with rage and indignantly when denied his wishes and if treated equally with others whom he deems inferior.
Idealization or devaluation -instantly idealizes or devalues his interlocutor. ...flatters, adores, admires and applauds the "target" in an embarrassingly exaggerated and profuse manner – or sulks, abuses, and humiliates her.
The "membership" posture -- always tries to "belong". ...same time, maintains stance as an outsider. - always prefers show-off to substance - One of the most effective methods of exposing a narcissist is by trying to delve deeper - a pond pretending to be an ocean
Bragging and false autobiography brags incessantly. - speech is peppered with "I", "my", "myself", and "mine". biography sounds unusually rich and complex. His achievements – incommensurate with his age, education, or renown.
Emotion-free language ikes to talk about himself and only about himself. He is not interested in others or what they have to say, acts bored, disdainful, even angry, if he feels that they are intruding on his precious time and, thus, abusing him. very impatient, easily bored, with strong attention deficits – unless and until he is the topic of discussion.
Seriousness and sense of intrusion and coercion is dead serious about himself. He may possess a subtle, wry, and riotous sense of humor, scathing and cynical, but rarely is he self-deprecating. The narcissist regards himself as being on a constant mission, whose importance is cosmic and whose consequences are global. is easily hurt and insulted (narcissistic injury). Even the most innocuous remarks or acts are interpreted by him as belittling, intruding, or coercive. Any suggested help, advice, or concerned inquiry are immediately cast by the narcissist as intentional humiliation, implying that the narcissist is in need of help and counsel and, thus, imperfect and less than omnipotent.
One feels ill at ease in the presence of a narcissist for no apparent reason. No matter how charming, intelligent, thought provoking, outgoing, easy going and social the narcissist is – he fails to secure the sympathy of others, a sympathy he is never ready, willing, or able to reciprocate.
I am discovering that the more information gathered the easier it is for me to affirm my own, how can I put it, health or normalcy... ;) After a period of questioning myself and living much like poor Alice did after going through the looking glass, it is refreshing to put some meat on the bones of reality.
The absolutely most difficult part of this is finding balance again between what my intellect recognizes as truth and what my wacky emotions insist on displaying.
This forum is proving to be a "Life saver" for both of us. I do the writing and we both read and discuss your in puts. Yes, sometimes he makes the snowballs and I throw them... to put in vernacular.
We are both discovering that our personal relationship with God is increasing proportionately with our being more specific in our conversations (as opposed to old fahioned prayers) with Him. I guess this may sound wacky too, BUT in our house, prayer has turned from being a series of one way pleas for stuff to being a rather hard to explain 2 way communication - as we sense being encouraged to speak (as on this forum), seeing actual happenings, thoughts and information being placed before us to events and people showing up literally at our door. :eek:
The more honest we are with you all and Him the more things seem to be happening. It may not all be pleasant, but it is enlightening and producing growth in us in good ways. :D :D :D
God bless you all richly for your love.
Anna Marta and her Viking
Yesterday I was researching a bit and found this place http://www.geocities.com/vaksam/faq58.html
It is a description of a narcissist. It described my pastor nearly perfectly. I shall give a little overview, however for more detail check it out further.
"Haughty" body language, a physical posture which implies and exudes an air of superiority, seniority, hidden powers, mysteriousness, amused indifference, etc.
Entitlement markers ...asks for "special treatment" of some kind the narcissist reacts with rage and indignantly when denied his wishes and if treated equally with others whom he deems inferior.
Idealization or devaluation -instantly idealizes or devalues his interlocutor. ...flatters, adores, admires and applauds the "target" in an embarrassingly exaggerated and profuse manner – or sulks, abuses, and humiliates her.
The "membership" posture -- always tries to "belong". ...same time, maintains stance as an outsider. - always prefers show-off to substance - One of the most effective methods of exposing a narcissist is by trying to delve deeper - a pond pretending to be an ocean
Bragging and false autobiography brags incessantly. - speech is peppered with "I", "my", "myself", and "mine". biography sounds unusually rich and complex. His achievements – incommensurate with his age, education, or renown.
Emotion-free language ikes to talk about himself and only about himself. He is not interested in others or what they have to say, acts bored, disdainful, even angry, if he feels that they are intruding on his precious time and, thus, abusing him. very impatient, easily bored, with strong attention deficits – unless and until he is the topic of discussion.
Seriousness and sense of intrusion and coercion is dead serious about himself. He may possess a subtle, wry, and riotous sense of humor, scathing and cynical, but rarely is he self-deprecating. The narcissist regards himself as being on a constant mission, whose importance is cosmic and whose consequences are global. is easily hurt and insulted (narcissistic injury). Even the most innocuous remarks or acts are interpreted by him as belittling, intruding, or coercive. Any suggested help, advice, or concerned inquiry are immediately cast by the narcissist as intentional humiliation, implying that the narcissist is in need of help and counsel and, thus, imperfect and less than omnipotent.
One feels ill at ease in the presence of a narcissist for no apparent reason. No matter how charming, intelligent, thought provoking, outgoing, easy going and social the narcissist is – he fails to secure the sympathy of others, a sympathy he is never ready, willing, or able to reciprocate.
I am discovering that the more information gathered the easier it is for me to affirm my own, how can I put it, health or normalcy... ;) After a period of questioning myself and living much like poor Alice did after going through the looking glass, it is refreshing to put some meat on the bones of reality.
The absolutely most difficult part of this is finding balance again between what my intellect recognizes as truth and what my wacky emotions insist on displaying.
This forum is proving to be a "Life saver" for both of us. I do the writing and we both read and discuss your in puts. Yes, sometimes he makes the snowballs and I throw them... to put in vernacular.
We are both discovering that our personal relationship with God is increasing proportionately with our being more specific in our conversations (as opposed to old fahioned prayers) with Him. I guess this may sound wacky too, BUT in our house, prayer has turned from being a series of one way pleas for stuff to being a rather hard to explain 2 way communication - as we sense being encouraged to speak (as on this forum), seeing actual happenings, thoughts and information being placed before us to events and people showing up literally at our door. :eek:
The more honest we are with you all and Him the more things seem to be happening. It may not all be pleasant, but it is enlightening and producing growth in us in good ways. :D :D :D
God bless you all richly for your love.
Anna Marta and her Viking