off topic, humor me please.....

[jane]

as I just found out that my step sister has breast cancer.


I am not really sure HOW to take the news. We grew up very close (she was 4 and I, 5 when our parents married each other's ex.)

We have been estranged however for almost 18 years.

She has two elementary aged children and is only 37 years old...she happened to find the lump on her own...and it is cancerous.

well, I just needed to share.

jane

[Jerry]

Sending up prayers for both of you Jane ;)
Love Jerry

[newlife]

So sorry to hear this...do you think that a reconciliation is possible between the two of you?

[Jo Jo]

Well, that puts the crank in the day. :(

That is sad and will be praying for this situation.



I hadn't talked to my Dad or Brother for 13 years, and last year and this year I spent wonderful vacations with them. I never believed this was possible. It took a lot of work I would have said it never could have been - one or the other side wouldn't have gotten their act together. I was once terrified of these people. Miracles happen I guess. *shrug*

[Janice]

as I just found out that my step sister has breast cancer.


I am not really sure HOW to take the news. We grew up very close (she was 4 and I, 5 when our parents married each other's ex.)

We have been estranged however for almost 18 years.

She has two elementary aged children and is only 37 years old...she happened to find the lump on her own...and it is cancerous.

well, I just needed to share.

jane


sorry jane..it sucks!

[hornblower]

as I just found out that my step sister has breast cancer.


I am not really sure HOW to take the news. We grew up very close (she was 4 and I, 5 when our parents married each other's ex.)

We have been estranged however for almost 18 years.

She has two elementary aged children and is only 37 years old...she happened to find the lump on her own...and it is cancerous.

well, I just needed to share.

jane

Jane I am a breast cancer survivor of 12 years now. I know this must be a shock. Its scarey too I know, and fear tends to make people run away from the person that has the desease.
I can tell you that if you can, it would be so nice of you to bring her food for her family all throughout her treatments. My family almost abandoned me when I had breast cancer. Not my immediate family but my sister and big time my brother, he was down right cruel to me.

I was too sick to care but I can tell you getting cards if you are not close to her help, maybe not now so much, but they will later. Kind words help too but really what can you say right? The worst thing people do is to talk about other people they have known about that have cancer too. I never wanted to hear that for sure and also I had do good christians coming to me asking me to pray for other cancer patients?????????????????????????????????????????? ??????????????????

What the heck was that about? Still drives me up a wall.
The best ever thing is offering well not offering but just go ahead and do it .....cleaning their house when they are sick and bringing or even sending food.
You know nothing stops, thats the bad thing. People still have to pay bills and cook and all of the other stuff but the sick person?????????? Or taking care of her children when she needs it.
Im sorry you are Im sure not needing to hear any of this right now because of the shock of it.
Do you know what stage it is? Are you or have you ever been close to her? I can tell you that she will not tell you what to do for her if you ask, thats just never done.
Shes in such shock right now and fear and anxiety that shes numb already thats just the way it is.
Knowing the stage will tell you her chances of survival.
Ill be praying for her and you too.........love you. Oh ok I reread that part about you growing up close. If you can do it its worth getting back into her life believe me. Its worth everything. It will enrich your life so much. Its not easy to do because the family will be going through many stages of pain denial anger all of that. You will need support just to love her and please feel free to come to me anytime with it. Im well at least I sure hope I am. Once you have it its never ever gone again in a way. I have my repeat mamogram in another week because my last one showed a spot.
They feel good about it thats what the nurse said. So anyway its hard sometimes to help people going through this but you wont be sorry that you did do it. My cousin who I loved dearly died from cancer and so did my brother. I tried as much as I could to enter into their lives. It was not easy I can tell you because well issues you know? The main issue is that neither one of them was born again. Im happy to say they are both in heaven now! In the end it was so worth every little thing I did and I wish I could have done more now. Tried even harder to see them, to talk to them and to know them better.
and Im so sorry for this news..............I know its scarrey and sad.
love you Jane loving you big time today!

[mary]

Jane, I'm so sorry...

A great deal of what your stepsister needs now are arms around her, if you can manage to provide... It doesn't matter whose arms; it particularly doesn't matter what water has gone under the bridge in the past, so to speak... I, like Hornblower, am a breast cancer survivor (DCIS, ductal carcinoma in situ - but it was all over the place, so I had a modified radical mastectomy and reconstruction) and the horror of that diagnosis changes the one who gets it forever.

If you feel led to bring her comfort, peace, forgiving care, hugs, etc. and you want to do it, then I'm sure both you and she would be blessed. That's the case no matter where she is spiritually now (I was a "hostile agnostic" when I was diagnosed - but friends meant the world to me) - and I can almost guarantee you that you won't be rejected. Since my diagnosis and recovery, I've been a peer counselor to women with breast cancer and I've never, ever had a bad experience while simply offering them concern and care...

Praying for both you and your stepsister,

mary