Janice
07-20-2006, 10:04 AM
I think Admin had a very good point so, I've decided to answer some of thier questions:
What has been most helpful in your recovery process?
I think what has been the most helpful is caring people who can relate to what I've gone through.
What has been least helpful?
Sometimes, scriptures trigger me and when people tell me what I HAVE to do. I learn much more from people SHARING their experience rather then giving advice.
How has your view of God changed?
I've come to realize (through many years) that God actually DOES love me.
How have your relationships changed? With family? With people still in the spritually abusive group?
My relationships with my family & friends are much more intimate then they used to be. My relationship with the people from my spiritually abusive group have changed in the fact that I forgive them now where I could not before. I've come to realize it is THEIR problem not mine, and they will have to answer someday as well as I.
What do you think would help you to reconnect with God?
What has really helped me re-connect with God is just making up my mind to do so. Admitting I am powerless without him and I need His help daily.
What can you do to break the abusive cycle?
Forgiveness is what has been helping me break the cycle. I'm not saying I've totally broken it yet but, i have to DAILY make an effort.
Are there ways you have passed on the dynamics of abuse? To children? To others? And what might help you to avoid that?
I don't think I've passed on the abuse. I may get "out of line" once in awhile but never do I try to DELIBERATELY abuse someone.
What will help me to avoid this is just to remind myself how I feel when being abused and I don't want to make any one else feel that way. Do unto others.
What has been most helpful in your recovery process?
I think what has been the most helpful is caring people who can relate to what I've gone through.
What has been least helpful?
Sometimes, scriptures trigger me and when people tell me what I HAVE to do. I learn much more from people SHARING their experience rather then giving advice.
How has your view of God changed?
I've come to realize (through many years) that God actually DOES love me.
How have your relationships changed? With family? With people still in the spritually abusive group?
My relationships with my family & friends are much more intimate then they used to be. My relationship with the people from my spiritually abusive group have changed in the fact that I forgive them now where I could not before. I've come to realize it is THEIR problem not mine, and they will have to answer someday as well as I.
What do you think would help you to reconnect with God?
What has really helped me re-connect with God is just making up my mind to do so. Admitting I am powerless without him and I need His help daily.
What can you do to break the abusive cycle?
Forgiveness is what has been helping me break the cycle. I'm not saying I've totally broken it yet but, i have to DAILY make an effort.
Are there ways you have passed on the dynamics of abuse? To children? To others? And what might help you to avoid that?
I don't think I've passed on the abuse. I may get "out of line" once in awhile but never do I try to DELIBERATELY abuse someone.
What will help me to avoid this is just to remind myself how I feel when being abused and I don't want to make any one else feel that way. Do unto others.