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mary
07-11-2006, 06:42 AM
When it rains, it pours...

Since last Wednesday, I've had the following happen:

1) was notified that "there's abnormal, bone marrow activity" in my spine that could indicate the presence of multiple myeloma or "metastatic disease" (I'm a breast cancer survivor);

2) had another church fiasco on Sunday where I had to walk out; my husband and I had a huge altercation over that and I may be leaving for a few days in a motel or a shelter or whatever...

3) lost my job yesterday morning, quite suddenly. I was aware that my boss was looking for someone who could work full-time, but she'd told me that she'd give me notice. (I'm on disability due to a couple of blood disorders and can work just 12-15 hours a week. But it was keeping me going and making me feel useful!) Yesterday morning, I came in to work and there was someone sitting in my spot who told me she was "the new paralegal." I showed her how to get into the computer programs, introduced her to the rest of the staff (they were angry that I was leaving like that) and told them to please, make the new gal feel welcome, no matter what. I encountered my boss in the parking lot and she said, "Well, I meant to give you notice." I said, "But you didn't, did you? I tried to do a good job for you." She just turned on her heel and said, "Bye."

One good thing: I got a beautiful e-mail from my Messianic rabbi, who's in NYC with the Jews for Jesus blitz right now, just kind of out of the blue, telling me how welcome I was to participate fully in his congregation, including the Aruchat Adonais! Just when I was at my lowest, this came. The Lord is good!

(I decided to cancel the bone scan I was supposed to have for the first problem. They wouldn't treat me anyway because of my other problems, so I figure, why bother? I don't think I have myeloma or a return of the cancer, anyway. Whatever.)

Janice, please, as I said in another post, let us know how your appointment goes today, okay????

Love to all,

mary

Willow
07-11-2006, 06:52 AM
Hi Mary... thanks for posting. Man... losing your job like that stinks! I've had my share of lost jobs too... and they do come at the worst times. Sounds like you're in a bit of a whirlwind with hubby, church, work, and health probs.

You know your own body... but as a friend, I do wish you would go on with treatments and tests. On the other hand... I know the pull of "ignorance is bliss". Who wants to know they have something serious wrong with them? I sure don't.

I'm glad the rabbi is reaching out to you. That sounds good... really good!

mary
07-11-2006, 07:07 AM
You know your own body... but as a friend, I do wish you would go on with treatments and tests. On the other hand... I know the pull of "ignorance is bliss". Who wants to know they have something serious wrong with them? I sure don't.



Um, okay, Amy, maybe I will give my hematologist a call (he's not the one who ordered the bone scan; my neurologist did) and see what he thinks. He got the "bad" MRI report by fax on Friday...

Thanks for being a friend and helping me to reconsider... :)

mary

Willow
07-11-2006, 07:11 AM
Um, okay, Amy, maybe I will give my hematologist a call (he's not the one who ordered the bone scan; my neurologist did) and see what he thinks. He got the "bad" MRI report by fax on Friday...

Thanks for being a friend and helping me to reconsider... :)

mary


Thanks Mary... I am relieved! Let us know what happens... K?

Illuminated
07-11-2006, 08:23 AM
I encountered my boss in the parking lot and she said, "Well, I meant to give you notice." I said, "But you didn't, did you? I tried to do a good job for you." She just turned on her heel and said, "Bye." I am dismayed at the way your boss treated you. I am very sorry that you were treated like that. You did not deserve it.

But - wow! I think you made the perfect, mature, and truthful remark to your boss in what you said to her! I wish I had the self-control and presence of mind to reply like that in a situation like yours.

Thank You Jesus for the Rabbi!

profnachos
07-11-2006, 10:15 AM
Oh man. I am so sorry to hear, mary.

An altercation? A physical altercation?

I am so sorry.

hornblower
07-11-2006, 10:29 AM
dearest Mary what a horrible week this has been for you darn it all!!!!!!!!!!!
This is all so unfair. Please do find out what is wrong with your spine? You know cancer...............its not a death sentence its a life style. Lol. I know Not funny is it? But Ill never get over how many unbelievably wonderful people the best people that I met that were diagnosed so many times with the worst and they are still just a truckin along. Bravest strongest most wonderful mature people I have ever been around.

Keep us involved all of the time with your care and please you can say anything to me about anything, hubbies, churches, communions, by the way what was it that the person did say about that Im curious.
That is one of my rules to never go to a church that wont allow anyone or someone to come up to communion. I know the word better than they do. But who are they to judge anyway they arent GOD!

Personally communion should be every Sunday in my book but hey? Im not their boss. Speaking of bosses they are, most of them anyway, they are all slobs!

She didnt want to pay more thats all. She will pay for it in the end they always do.

You know my husband is a boss. He cries over his men that he has to let go. Its never really his decision anyway. Still I tell him, nobodys going to get away with that you know?
She could have been more civil about the entire thing couldnt she? GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!
Im praying for you sweet heart I wish I could come over and cook for you or hug you or cry or something. Love you Mary.

Carmen
07-11-2006, 12:12 PM
Oh dear, (((((Mary))))),

Now this! I admire you too, for keeping your head with that ghastly boss. At least the church situation is going well, I hope that they can support you and comfort you. I know how it is not to be morally supported by Hubby. What I have been thinking lately about my situation might help you too: There is no way but up, so up it is.

Love, love and more love,

Carmen

Hope 98
07-11-2006, 12:18 PM
Mary - I a m so sorry to hear of all that's happened to you in such a short time.

I am at a total loss - I don't know how to begin to encourage you, or comfort you or anything. I just want you to know that you're a special person and I truly hope that things get much better for you really soon.

You'll be in my prayers.

Janice
07-11-2006, 02:01 PM
(((((((((((((((((((Mary)))))))))))))

"the effective, fervent prayers of a righteous man availeth much"

and I am effectively, fervently praying!

Hang in there!

Jerry
07-11-2006, 06:49 PM
(I decided to cancel the bone scan I was supposed to have for the first problem. They wouldn't treat me anyway because of my other problems, so I figure, why bother? I don't think I have myeloma or a return of the cancer, anyway. Whatever.)



Dear Mary,,,,
Do I have to come down there ,,,,,,grab you by the ear ,,,,,,,,,and march you to that Doctor young lady :mad:

Love Jerry

little lamb
07-11-2006, 08:18 PM
(((((Mary))))) wow, goodness. Sorry about all this. will pray.

love,
little lamb

Reg
07-12-2006, 08:26 AM
(((((((((((((((((((MARY)))))))))))))))))

ex-shep
07-12-2006, 09:07 AM
Well if you have read my posts on the witchy poo at the airline and the multi-level marketing scam I walked out of, you will see you are good company. I must confess I feel cynical today. In any case, I can relate. Next latte on me.

Janice
07-12-2006, 01:05 PM
I must confess I feel cynical today.

what do you mean..TODAY? :D :D

mary
07-13-2006, 10:01 AM
Oh man. I am so sorry to hear, mary.

An altercation? A physical altercation?

I am so sorry.

Um, no, not this time... Thanks, Profnachos... It was just words this time, but sometimes that's almost worse...

m.