Thank you all who support Ninas

[butterfly]

I want to thank everyone who support Ninas.
DID doesn"t mean we are possesed, crazy,ect.
I am so tired of Christians using thoses words against us. Not just DID but depression, anixty attacks any mental illness.
Do you know how hard it is having these illness only be told the things.:( :( :( :(
We are christians and belong to Jesus just like the people who don"t have these illness"s. butterfly shirley

[yeshua'smags]

You are exactly right butterfly! Thank you for saying this! I know it took a lot of courage!;)

You are right, christians need to stop trying to come up with any other reasons as to why this happens to people. It happens because God is good and he gave everyone coping mechanisms to get through the horriffic things we do to eachother! ;) :p

I am so thankful and honored to know Ninaspirit and Shirley! I thank God for you!:D :p :D

[SpinningHead]

Of couse I support Ninas! :)

Ninas is awesome! :D

[jimsmuse]

I thank God for the brilliance that is Ninas and Butterfly Shirley.
love always, Marcy

[Illuminated]

Ninaspirit might be interested in checking out the site http://www.christiansurvivors.com/forums/showthread.php?t=16247
because it sounds like it would be safe for her to post there.

The information below is from the site of Christian Survivors Forums.
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Christian Survivors Forums
Here at CS, we have spent a lot of time looking at how we can make the forum safer for the littles and teens of DID systems. Obviously, because littles are just kids, there are things on the main forum that are simply not appropriate or safe for them to be reading. It is very comparable to having our own children on the forum - it just wouldn't be appropriate for them to be reading in many areas... you would want to monitor and screen what they had access to.

We feel that, as a result of the special needs of this group of members, it was necessary to come up with some guidelines for the way the littles interact on the forum.

DID Posting Guidelines

If you are DID, and have insiders who want to post here, they will need to have a separate user account created for them by the senior staff. (or alternatively, some members may find it more helpful for them to have group accounts created for them - one for each age group required.) There is a request thread for these accounts posted in the Ask the Staff forum!

All littles & teens accounts will have access that is restricted to only forums which are safe for them. Hosts & protectors are encouraged to have access to these accounts, and to still watch over the younger members of the system when they are reading and posting on the forum. This will also help foster an environment in which internal communication is encouraged, and safe.

In order to ensure safety for everyone on the forum, we will request that any member who would like accounts and access set up for their insiders, will need to have a diagnosis from a trained professional.

Littles access will include 2 separate hidden forums : The Playroom, & the Littles Trigger Forum, which have been designed specifically for younger children. This way they will have somewhere safer to post, and to form relationships with both other inside kids, and with safe staff and members here at CS. (A small group of trusted, regular members also have access there.) Not only does this keep these young members safe, but it will also allow them recognition as an individual - something which is vital for their healing!!

For these same safety reasons, we discourage DID specific threads on the public forums. (i.e. threads whose topics are designed specifically for DID insiders) Most insiders need to be seen as individuals in order to work on their own healing, in much the same way as all survivors do.

Here at CS, we don't tend to have special threads only for people with PTSD or depression (for example), but rather, we tend to work very much on an individual basis. Each member will create their own threads to discuss the things they are dealing with - and people with DID, although they function on a different level, still have much the same issues as any other survivor.

Therefore, any ideas for DID specific threads will need to be run by the senior staff before they are posted, and any threads posted without permission will be removed. (If you have a problem that relates specifically to your DID, it's still okay for you to discuss it in your threads of course!!)

Similarly to the littles, older kids & teens will also be required to have their own accounts set up if they wish to post. These accounts will be given access appropriate to their ages, & we would encourage the mid to late teenagers > young adults, to get access to 'Young Hearts', our under 24's forum. This is so that they are able to interact with other people of similar age ranges to them. It would also mean that they are able to have somewhere hidden too, where they can talk about stuff that affects them as teens etc.

If either you or your teen feel that particular forums they have access to would be triggering for them, we can also modify each account individually to remove access to those areas.


The following guidelines have been put in place to ensure greater safety for your insiders:

1. Each insider who wants to post will need to have their own account, or use a group account with access appropriate to their age. These accounts will be set up by the senior staff rather than the host, as we will set their access up as we create the accounts.

2. All new threads specifically for littles should be posted in 'The Playroom', or the littles trigger forum within it.

3. Insiders must only use their own accounts to post, as different age groups will have access tailored to their needs.

Anyone who does not respect these guidelines could risk losing their access.


Access to Private Forums

In addition to these guidelines, any insider who wishes to have access to private forums must meet the same posting requirements that any other member must meet. This means that they will have had to be posting regularly on the regular forums for the specified time in order to gain access to private areas. Along with these requirements, any private forum access will be granted only after being okayed by the system host.

Along with these changes, new members who wish to have accounts created for insiders will be required to be regularly active for a period of 16 weeks before new accounts will be allowed.

If you have any questions or concerns, please don’t hesitate to contact us by posting in our Member Concerns & Resolution Place.

This approach to posting on CS is designed to allow each insider the choice to be a person in their own right while on the forum. We believe that each insider should be allowed the opportunity to deal with their 'own' survivor issues, and to have a safe space to talk about what's happened to them - so that they can work towards healing.

There are different views on what 'healing' means for someone with DID. Some people believe that their goal should be one of 'integration' (where each part merges back with the host until they are no longer multiple). Others believe that integration is not necessary for healing, and that people with DID can learn to live healthily, whilst remaining multiple.

At CS, our policy is that the choice is entirely that of each system - and we will support members in working towards whatever goal they wish to aim for. We believe that for either goal, each insider needs to heal from their individual issues, in order for the whole person to find a place of healing.

[yeshua'smags]

You just can't resist can you?:mad:

[SpinningHead]

It is safe for Ninas & Butterfly to post here too! :)

[jimsmuse]

Warning, quoting scripture! Does everyone remember "Train up a child in the way that they should go......?"
I heard one time that the Hebrew interpretaion is literally "Create an environment for life according to a child's gifts and bents...."
That is what I feel here on this forum, we create an environment for life.....I want to protect and preserve that for everyone ALL are safe and we have so much to learn from all who post here.Especially those of us who are on different journeys.

[ninaspirit]

I want to thank everyone who support Ninas.
DID doesn"t mean we are possesed, crazy,ect.
I am so tired of Christians using thoses words against us. Not just DID but depression, anixty attacks any mental illness.
Do you know how hard it is having these illness only be told the things.:( :( :( :(
We are christians and belong to Jesus just like the people who don"t have these illness"s. butterfly shirley

(((((((Buterfly!)))))) you did use a lot of corage for saying that. cuz it is hard talking abot DID and suporting peple up front. thank you. :) we want other peple who have DID to be free for being them selfs to. tears hapy tears.

(((((((All of you ))))))are so kind agan. and where we live it would be so differnt. there is a building in the corner of town where peple go for stuff like this and that is how the town likes it. but we dont. so we are strugling through this like any one else is strugling through there stuff. some times we feel realy embarased how we are and ask to get taken off. but others can stay so we can to.

Illumnate now you can talk with us or not. but not abot us lik we cant think for us. well that is how it feels when you say "she" or "ninaspirit" like you are talking with some body else. we wold like us being frends - not for being a certan way - just frends how we are. that wold make it more safe. plese. thanks. it is not fihting words. it is a invite. ok.

Abot going to the difernt forum. we did. and we cam back. mor than one time. but we do go on some forums for DID and they love God to. but abot going away from here. no. in a church we went to peple can say they have cancer, funy hair, broken homes, a bent nose, some say they are sex abused, some had anxity, some had DID and some did drugs. and some didnt have big problems. we dont have a differnt church for evry one. :) we are staying. wehn peple strugle here we see they dont get sent some where else. we see peple make a safe circle arond them and it is waht hapen yesterday for us. we dont want to go some where else wehn we are here. ok. this is another place for us.

today was a more quiet day. we did some sewing for keeping our head busy. and some thinking abot yesterday and your words for helping us. and we are very thankful we didnt get juged.

love ninas.

[Janice]

(((((((((((((((Ninas)))))))))) Luv ya!

Just read this. Good for you for hanging in there, and good for you for not "taking the bait".

Unfortunately, there are simple 'attention seekers" on this forum, just like many other personalities.

I choose to ignore such folk. If I ignore something long enough, eventually it goes away. ;)

((((((Butterfly))))))))

A very courageous thing to do on your part. Hang in there! Luv u 2

[Janice]

Warning, quoting scripture! Does everyone remember "Train up a child in the way that they should go......?"
I heard one time that the Hebrew interpretaion is literally "Create an environment for life according to a child's gifts and bents...."
That is what I feel here on this forum, we create an environment for life.....I want to protect and preserve that for everyone ALL are safe and we have so much to learn from all who post here.Especially those of us who are on different journeys.

Amen!

[sprout]

Shoot, I have been asked several times if I am DID on account of ousted...SHRUG
I DUNNO....can't afford help, scared to get help, and can't justify having to pay somebody to listen to my garbage. and guess what???

The church taught me to fear such judgement and abstain from spiritual hookers!

Nina's courage...etal has helped me sort stuff more than many of you might realize, and if this aint a safe place for her...it aint safe for me.

One of the greatest benefits of these boards is sharing when ya wanna share and listening like a wallflower when ya dont got nerve.

When I am a wallflower...you all teach me.

[Doug64]

Good point.

Reading can be just as beneficial as posting.

Hi ((((Ninas)))).

Doug

[newlife]

Yes, this is a safe place for you both, ninas and butterfly shirley...I'm glad that you both are here.

I have learned A LOT from both of you. You both have a lot of insight and are very compassionate to the others that are on the forum. I have been blessed by reading your thoughtful posts.

Please know that I support you both and would be very sad if either one of you dropped out of this forum. I know that you, ninas, struggle sometimes with posting and have thought about quitting the forum, but I hope that you hang in there and stay with us.

Butterfly Shirley, when you were gone a couple of weeks ago and weren't on here for several days, I was concerned that everything was okay. I was glad to find out that you were just having computer problems.

I cannot express HOW MUCH all of you on this forum mean to me! I consider you all to be my friends, though we may never meet "face-to-face" in this life. I think about you all, I tell others about my friends on the forum, I pray for you. And when someone decides to leave the forum, I miss them. I wonder how they're doing. I consider everyone here to be my support group!

Ninas and Butterfly Shirley, you have a lot of friends here...friends who care for you just the way you are...and I'm one of those people...

I love you,
newlife

[ninaspirit]

Good point.

Reading can be just as beneficial as posting.

Hi ((((Ninas)))).

Doug


Hi ((((((((BB))))))) :D

Ninas.

[ninaspirit]

what bait? ;)


we lost our hook in the lake last summer and the fishes got jumping. :D



love you ((((((((((Janice))))))))) thanks for helping us up agan. love ninas.

[Janice]

what bait? ;)


we lost our hook in the lake last summer and the fishes got jumping. :D



love you ((((((((((Janice))))))))) thanks for helping us up agan. love ninas.

Haha! Glad to see your sense of humor is still entact! :D

[Willow]

Ninas! I'm astounded at how well you are navigating through what could have really messed with your head. Love ya Sis!!!!!

[Voyager]

I, too, have been amazed at how maturely Ninas has responded to posts that would have sent me into orbit. I don't see anything childish about Ninas at all. As a matter of fact, we could all learn a lot from Ninas. I have a tremendous amount of respect and admiration for Ninas. I hope that the Ninas never leave this forum.

:cool:

[ninaspirit]

Hi,

we are eating humble pie today. it is tasting prety flat but good. And we feel very blesed for being here.

Sprout we are lerning from you is just saying how it is for us and not wory so much how others think. we stil strugle with anxity when posting - dont wory if you got DID - its not that different from a single - we just got mor than most. :) You are riht abot lerning as a walflowr. :)

just for saying how are DID hapens - a lot of are DID hapen with spirtual abuse. switches betwen home and church. evry thing abot us from are baby time to geting older is conected to God - with shame and lots of rules. betwen are dad and us abot God. he makes himself God. evry thing is done with shame and saying we ask for it, and how we are not worth any thing in God's eyes - uh are dad's eyes. we are lik crumbs on a table God can wipe off just like that. he said. we know he mised abot Gods love. but we split trying to always make a better one who would do it beter. if it is abot sex it is shame, and makes stuff confused, if it is just are thoghts it is abot shame from God, if it is abot dating it is abot shame from God.... praying, reading a Bible, it is never good enough. wehn we cant do it no more are mind breaks off the part of us and trys making a new one that can do how it is expected and try make shame go away like it dint hapen. even for the word love - it is a feling of shame for saying we love some one. but we are geting beter with it. we lerned that if we have understnding for other peple it helps us have more understnding for us to. it can help tak down walls. it is hard puting this here because it shows are shame waht we feel in are skin and in are body. but it is are dad's shame his rules. this is Nancy's shame - who came on upset the other day. Nancy takes on are dad - how he is - she trys being how he is and its all wrong. ..... more shame. she is geting help now. so she can get beter. one part at a time. if it dosnt make sense - well it didnt make sense then ether.

we have to say, abot Allannajoy - it is are first time trying making a I person with lots of peple. C.... is thinking lots abot that. abot feling safe for being I on a board. well just saying.

Voyager and Willow - we will have some more humble pie with that. thank you so much. we are stil in shock we didnt get juged for Allannajoy.
Spinninghead - we see it now - Allannajoy - A Land Of Joy? :D yah we can hear children laughing. :p wehn we got the name Allanna means peace. thank you.

love ninas.

[Janice]

Nancy takes on are dad - how he is - she trys being how he is and its all wrong. ..... more shame. she is geting help now. so she can get beter. one part at a time. if it dosnt make sense - well it didnt make sense then ether.

Everytime I think of Nancy, (dating myself again here) I think of the "Nancy"on the cartoon Sluggo. :D Remember that?