September 2 2001 - Intuition & Insight - INFJ

[Reg]

September 2 2001 - Intuition & Insight - INFJ

In developing a new circle of friends & relationships I have developed an overcautious defense mechanism & am not as open as I would like to be. It may also be a result of my personality & temperament. According to the Myers-Brigg's temperament analysis, I am an INFJ (Idealist/Counselor).

I have a need to be heard & clearly understood and have only found a very few who will take the time and energy to just listen. I also want desperately to have what I say accepted or at least validated as my reality without trying to circumvent what I am saying with YA-BUTTS. I get annoyed (P.T.S.D.) when that happens & just stop talking & withdraw. I do not like arguing or confrontation and will say "Whatever". I value Peace of Mind greatly. I am not always right in my perceptions. However, because of my highly analytical mind, often see or the best, most effective way to do things in the shortest period of time. I strive to be very efficient. I am very time conscious.

In my experience, this has often proven to be true. Relying on my own resources in many practical ways and areas, I have found, is usually the best way to do things. God has gifted me with VISION & foresight. I am able to anticipate the natural outcome of many situations through VISUALIZATION of the logical conclusion of circumstances, facts & events. I am able to process a lot of info in a remarkably short period of time enabling me to reach decisions very quickly. It's almost instinctive and usually proves to be right, but not always. I tend to get ahead of myself at times of anticipated premonitions that need more time to be correctly thought about.

Because I have relied on these & my gut feeling too much, I can be wrong, yet I have found, hardly ever. (I mentioned this in my recent version of my Testimony is was to give to the group at Regeneration.) I think it is a personality trait I got from my stepfather. He was a perfectionist and I tend to be a bit like that myself. I hate to be wrong and go overboard at times to get things right initially.

[Oopsie Daisey]

Boy I can't stand to be wrong and I can't stand to be ignored and interestingly enough I can't stand not being able to fix things. I hate to admit that I am without power. Yet I appreciate your approach to we have a mind and God given insights. Appreciated the post. Thanks.

[Florence]

Reg,
I think we're twins!

I, too, "need to be heard and clearly understood." Also, I am not interested in shallow relationships. I want to be known deeply and well and I want to know others deeply and well.

I, too, have a "highly analytical mind" and "often see or the best, most effective way to do things in the shortest period of time. I strive to be very efficient. I am very time conscious."

This drives the "touchy, feely" people crazy. I literally had a group of women on a worship team I led arguing over my leadership style because a couple of them wanted me to be more "sensitive" by focusing on "how is everybody feeling today?" even if it meant spending hours and hours preparing for a 15-minute worship set. The rest of the group was elated that they finally had a leader who knew how to get the job done to the best of our ability in the least amount of time and everyone back home to their families at a reasonable hour. Of course, it turned out that I was the "bad-guy" because the "touchy, feely" gals were wives of doctors and investment gurus and the rest were just ordinary stay-at-home moms who were sometimes wondering how they were going to buy groceries that week. And in my church, money always wins. But I digress . . . .

I, too, rely on "my gut feeling" and am usually right. This aggravates the heck out of people who only like to have "yes-men" on their team.

And I think I got it from my step-father - "he was a perfectionist" and he taught me the value of doing your best the first time. To him, "perfectionist" wasn't a dirty word like it is at my church (if you want to do your best and help others to do their best, but it makes the person in leadership who is just sliding by on an outrageous salary look bad, you are a very bad person). To my step father, "perfectionist" was a trait of a person with high character and integrity.

[Ellen]

mithsmile,
Your post on the other thread (PSTD and spiritual abuse) just sounded too familiar. You'll recognize the original post below which was written in 2004 from whence you copied and pasted . . .

[Reg]

Terrific Ellen.

You are one sharp lady. How did you ever notice that?

What do you think their purpose was?

[Ellen]

I sometimes do a lot of searching of past posts with keywords that match my situation. Something about the post sounded really familiar so I did another search and it popped up immediately. Sure enough, it was one I had read sometime in the past several months.

My pastor says I have a memory like a steel trap - pastors and other church leaders don't like that, can you believe it??? :)

As to their purpose - who knows? I work with a guy who has ordered me to write up proposals as though I am him, then email the proposals to him so that he can submit them as his own. I am amazed at the number of people in this world who think that stealing other people's work, plagarism, and taking credit for what others have done is an okay thing to do. Geesh!

Ellen