((((((((((((Carmen)))))))))))

[Janice]

Just thought you could use a hug. :)

[butterfly]

:) Here is my hug to.[[[[[Carmen]]]]. Butterfly

[ex-shep]

:) Here is my hug to.[[[[[Carmen]]]]. Butterfly

Group cyber hug perhaps.

[Carmen]

Thanks for the cyber hugs, guys. Am not as pissed now, just disappointed. We are managing somehow. Must go, Hubby needs the computer again - I wasn't finished.

[Enochwar]

Could you use another hug? :o

((((((((((Carmen))))))))))

and a grin :D

and thanks for the encouragement you have been to me.


Enochwar

[ex-shep]

Could you use another hug? :o

((((((((((Carmen))))))))))

and a grin :D

and thanks for the encouragement you have been to me.


Enochwar

Hangeth on in there, friend. :)

[mstar]

Guess I missed what all has been going on with you. Know I have missed you. Thanks for all the times you have been there for me. Lots of (((((Carmen)))))))
I'll go back to the older threads and try to piece together what has happened.

gee, Carmen, I am sorry. Bless you.

[Kerrin]

Guess I missed what all has been going on with you. Know I have missed you. Thanks for all the times you have been there for me. Lots of (((((Carmen)))))))
I'll go back to the older threads and try to piece together what has happened.

gee, Carmen, I am sorry. Bless you.

Can you cope with another hug Carmen, you have so often encouraged me, I feel like I've let you down......
Sorry:(
(((((((Carmen))))))); me too will try and play 'catch up".
Love
Kerrin:o

[Carmen]

Thanks for the extra hugs, Kerrin, mstar, Enochwar and encouragement ex-shep.

We are going to see my daughter's doctor (for dyslexia) tomorrow, both of us. At the last appointment she stressed the need for more self esteem in my daughter. I told her why I think she isn't coping well and won't anytime soon either, that Hubby changed after he had back pain when the children were very little. The back pain is gone - he regularly exercises for it - but the bad behavior that came with it remains.

He is irritable, nervous (was always a bit nervous), often puts us down, gets angry easily. This is not the same person I married.

I have had patience, had hoped that a change of jobs - he was miserable in the other one - would solve the problem. It hasn't. I even consented to moving to Italy (from Germany) because of the new job and learning the new language, just in the hope of getting a more satisfied and happy husband. It didn't work. I liked the lifestyle in Germany better, we had a larger house and garden there, more money, more friends. I had better job opportunities there because I already knew the language. I am doubly disappointed now. If he were satisfied and would treat us better the move would have been worth it. But he is never satisfied. It seems it was all for nothing.

Well, tomorrow the sh** will probably hit the fan. I have a feeling that he will say I am working against him, will get angry because I told the doctor about him and even that I had considered marriage counseling - which I have not been able to tell him yet. I'm just tired of putting up with insults every day and having to console my kids after they have been insulted. I don't see why I should have to tolerate this situation if there is no chance of anything improving. I hope that the doctor can convince him to get help. If it costs money though, we can't afford it.

[mstar]

Hey Carmen. Again it is good to have you back. I am just sorry things are not going so well on the home front. My husband had a personality change too. It is hard when your husband who you hope will be strong for you is not the same man you married. I can't imagine, in addition to this, having to change countries. Know this must be difficult. Will be in prayer for today I guess it would be for you now, for your meeting and concerning your daugher. Please let us know what all happens.
Love & prayers:)



Thanks for the extra hugs, Kerrin, mstar, Enochwar and encouragement ex-shep.

We are going to see my daughter's doctor (for dyslexia) tomorrow, both of us. At the last appointment she stressed the need for more self esteem in my daughter. I told her why I think she isn't coping well and won't anytime soon either, that Hubby changed after he had back pain when the children were very little. The back pain is gone - he regularly exercises for it - but the bad behavior that came with it remains.

He is irritable, nervous (was always a bit nervous), often puts us down, gets angry easily. This is not the same person I married.

I have had patience, had hoped that a change of jobs - he was miserable in the other one - would solve the problem. It hasn't. I even consented to moving to Italy (from Germany) because of the new job and learning the new language, just in the hope of getting a more satisfied and happy husband. It didn't work. I liked the lifestyle in Germany better, we had a larger house and garden there, more money, more friends. I had better job opportunities there because I already knew the language. I am doubly disappointed now. If he were satisfied and would treat us better the move would have been worth it. But he is never satisfied. It seems it was all for nothing.

Well, tomorrow the sh** will probably hit the fan. I have a feeling that he will say I am working against him, will get angry because I told the doctor about him and even that I had considered marriage counseling - which I have not been able to tell him yet. I'm just tired of putting up with insults every day and having to console my kids after they have been insulted. I don't see why I should have to tolerate this situation if there is no chance of anything improving. I hope that the doctor can convince him to get help. If it costs money though, we can't afford it.

[Janice]

*sigh* Hang in there ((((((((Carmen)))))))))

[mary]

(((((((Carmen))))))))!!! :)

You've been such a blessed encourager to all of us; I pray for you and your family today...

May the Lord bless you and keep you; may He make His face to shine upon you; may He lift up His countenance upon you and give you peace... May you feel those everlasting Arms around you at all times...

mary

[jane]

Carmen,
I am just catching this thread because I have been busy and when I get busy I don't have time to read all the threads---

I am sorry about the stress that you are going through. Hugs and prayers for you and your daughter.

anything that I can do, let me know


love,
jane

[Carmen]

Thanks again for the hugs, guys.

The doctor tried to address the issue while being delicate, I don't know if Hubby got the message. I think she wanted me to say the nitty gritty but I couldn't. She just said that a change at home was needed to boost my daughter's self esteem, and used my daughter's grandparent's behavior (male line) as an example. They are old an inflexible and don't want to understand her condition (My parents were quite understanding when we went to visit this summer). It may not be intentional, they just don't get it, they are from a different time too, when girls were thought of as inferior. The doctor said that Hubby should actively protect her from such behavior, I couldn't accuse him of not treating us correctly and the doctor wouldn't. She tried to manouver him into admitting that he doesn't treat at least my daughter right sometimes, but he didn't admit it. That is why I'm not sure if he got it. It will take about a week, probably, to see if he got it or not. He may ask me what I told the doctor the last time. I hope I can keep my cool and that he keeps his. Our next appointment with her will be in about 4 months, but I want to see a change for the better before then.

Carmen

[butterfly]

[[[[Carmen]]]] I am glad to see you are able to post again. I have missed you.
I hope everything will go well with you and your husband.
I hope he understands your daughters needs. It must be very hard for her in this time of her life.
I know it must be double hard for you also.
I am praying for you and your family. butterfly

[mstar]

Thanks again for the hugs, guys.

The doctor tried to address the issue while being delicate, I don't know if Hubby got the message. I think she wanted me to say the nitty gritty but I couldn't. She just said that a change at home was needed to boost my daughter's self esteem, and used my daughter's grandparent's behavior (male line) as an example. They are old an inflexible and don't want to understand her condition (My parents were quite understanding when we went to visit this summer). It may not be intentional, they just don't get it, they are from a different time too, when girls were thought of as inferior. The doctor said that Hubby should actively protect her from such behavior, I couldn't accuse him of not treating us correctly and the doctor wouldn't. She tried to manouver him into admitting that he doesn't treat at least my daughter right sometimes, but he didn't admit it. That is why I'm not sure if he got it. It will take about a week, probably, to see if he got it or not. He may ask me what I told the doctor the last time. I hope I can keep my cool and that he keeps his. Our next appointment with her will be in about 4 months, but I want to see a change for the better before then.

Carmen

Guess we could pray that "He will get it", that his eyes will open. Four months until the next appointment is a long time when the conditions at home are not good. Prob the doc may have thought if she had said things too plain, hubby's pride might have gotten in the way. It was good she suggested that he be more protective of your daughter. Maybe the message "got in". . . we can hope. Will continue prayers.

Love & prayers:)

[Carmen]

Thanks butterfly and mstar, I'll keep praying, too, for the whole situation and for more patience on my part....