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Sheep
08-04-2005, 09:33 PM
The other night I rode with my husband to drop our daughter off at youth group. The two of them usually ride together, but my plans had changed, and I asked if my hubby would like to spend time w/me while our daughter was at youth group. Dropping her off felt uncomfortable, but when I waited in the car while my husband went into the building to go get her, I almost had a full blown panic attack!

For those who don't know my story, a short re-cap: I attended a very legalistic church after becoming a new believer. Attended a grace-filled church for about six years after getting married. Left that one to attend a church closer to home for six years after having our first child. Pastor left that church and it became very abusive. Became members of another church about four years ago, but had an awful crisis in my marriage that triggered childhood abuse memories. Attended a conference for Christian women a year later and was retraumatized through spiritual abuse. Havn't been able to attend church except for a few times since then.

Anyone else have situations cross over each other like this? Once one deals with the deep wounds of the past and heals from most of the abuses, will I be able to attend church again? Sometimes I feel obligated to attend out of obedience, but then that triggers my abusive upbringing to pretend when there are real issues and troubling problems existing in my life! I'm feeling confused most days this past week and my anxiety levels have spiked. Any feedback would be welcome.

Sheep

Satscout
08-04-2005, 09:48 PM
no wisdom, just *gentle hugs*

(((((Sheep)))))

courage, dear heart...

Kerrin
08-05-2005, 12:49 AM
[Anyone else have situations cross over each other like this?

YES dear Sheep!! Know what ya mean! Exactly!!

Once one deals with the deep wounds of the past and heals from most of the abuses, will I be able to attend church again? Sometimes I feel obligated to attend out of obedience, but then that triggers my abusive upbringing to pretend when there are real issues and troubling problems existing in my life! I'm feeling confused most days this past week and my anxiety levels have spiked. Any feedback would be welcome.
Sheep[/QUOTE]

((((((Sheep)))))))), a big cyber one too!!!!

I don't have the solution , except my stress levels are so high right now, I just booked a week- end away for Amy and I !!
( She didn't go to school, because, I think my anxiety has stressed her into a migraine! :eek: ).

I literally "hang out" for my counselling sessions now , to help me remember THAT, was THEN ; and THIS is NOW!
No-one can hurt me anymore!
I pray that for all us PTSD sufferers, our "tapes" are soon replaced with new sweet ones! ;)

Love
Kerrin ;)

Jerry
08-05-2005, 01:26 AM
Dear Sheep,,,
Many aspects and events of recovery overlap.Yup,,,,,,,,,Time is a four letter word ;)
Love Jerry

butterfly
08-05-2005, 05:44 PM
:) [[[Sheep]]] I am just working with the church abuse. I am mostly finished with the PTSD from my childhood. For me that in itself would cause me to have panic attacks and body feelings anywhere church, shopping ,driving. . Going to church at the time I was recovering was awful for me. That is when some of the abuse from church started. I was judged for depression and ptsd from childhood. If you would like to ask me how I went thru my ptsd I am willing to share.
:) It is hard to go thru alone. :( butterfly

sarah j douglas
08-05-2005, 06:45 PM
Hi Shirley,
I am new to the forum, what is PTSD? if you don't mind sharing.

Hope 98
08-05-2005, 06:58 PM
Hi Shirley,
I am new to the forum, what is PTSD? if you don't mind sharing.

Just because Shirley doesn't seem to be here right now and I had been diagnosed with the same condition many years ago - PTSD - stands for Post Traumatic Stress disorder.

Apparently it was a misdiagnosis - nobody believes that anything bad ever happened to me.

I'm such a baby.

sarah j douglas
08-05-2005, 07:09 PM
ok, I get it, I've been there. I remember meeting my 2nd husband in a church that he had been stuck in for 13 years. I knew as soon as the pastors wife told people to stay away from me it wasn't a good place. She said I was a goat. I say naaaaa I'm a sheep. I had to attend with my new husband a few months before the Lord revealed what was really going on. It was very hard. We eventually left and started the road of deprogramming.

Janice
08-06-2005, 03:01 AM
Yep Sheep....I know exactly what you mean.

My hubby had to stop off at church last week for something and I too was triggered as soon as we pulled in the parking lot!!!!

Tomorrow is Sunday again *sigh*. I will not go again for the fourth week in a row.