why does, or should this bother me??

[DLL]

i know how important prayer is not only to do it myself, but also to have others pray for me or a need i, or somebody close to me might have. so when my husband goes to this church, why does it infuriate me for him to stand up and ask for prayer for one of us?
for example, within the last week, my oldest daughter, bethany 20, was diagnosed with advanced Lyme disease and possibly lymphoma. she will need to have a biopsy done. if i were attending somewhere right now, i would probably have asked people to pray for her (and i do so here too). but when hubby stood up at the end of church and asked the members to pray for her, i feel outraged. and i am not sure why. i feel like there is some kind of invasion of privacy when he does that. especially, if i start to hear that these people are making us the topic of conversation again, even if its for a good reason. (via emails, or phone calls).
is this rational? does anybody else go through this? i only get made if my husband does it, not anyone else. i dunno. i am so confused right now.

[Hope 98]

Actually - I think it makes a lot of sense that you react the way that you do.

The people that you've been talking about at that church have been gossipping more than praying, and using every ounce of information they get for judgment against you. I wouldn't want them praying about me either.

[Theodora]

Hi DLL-- I think you've answered your own question in this assessment of what might happen, e.g.

i start to hear that these people are making us the topic of conversation again, even if its for a good reason. (via emails, or phone calls).

My guess is that not only is this a VERY "rational" response---and a way for your self-defense mechanism to kick in where it SHOULD---but, you may also be feeling additionally vulnerable and "out of control" because I'm guessing that your husband KNOWS that you resent this kind of action and does it anyway.

:confused:

That said, it may be too that because your daughter's situation is so serious, he simply doesn't think that anyone should "stand on ceremony" about a need for prayer. I can imagine that it must put you in a real bind if you were to object to him about his actions because he could feel that he was "right" and your needs would be further discounted.

???

Perhaps???

I would think that there would be other ways to approach asking for prayer without your being made such a public "case."

Grace and peace to you and yours this day...and yes...since you asked, you and yours WILL be in my prayers. I do hope that the doctors can diagnose and treat your daughter successfully and that your fears about possible further ramifications of this in your life will soon be laid to rest.

Theodora

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i know how important prayer is not only to do it myself, but also to have others pray for me or a need i, or somebody close to me might have. so when my husband goes to this church, why does it infuriate me for him to stand up and ask for prayer for one of us?
for example, within the last week, my oldest daughter, bethany 20, was diagnosed with advanced Lyme disease and possibly lymphoma. she will need to have a biopsy done. if i were attending somewhere right now, i would probably have asked people to pray for her (and i do so here too). but when hubby stood up at the end of church and asked the members to pray for her, i feel outraged. and i am not sure why. i feel like there is some kind of invasion of privacy when he does that. especially, if i start to hear that these people are making us the topic of conversation again, even if its for a good reason. (via emails, or phone calls).
is this rational? does anybody else go through this? i only get made if my husband does it, not anyone else. i dunno. i am so confused right now.

[DLL]

thanks hope and theodora. i really feel like i love the people here!! :D

[Kerrin]

DLL,
I agree, you are not irrational.
When My 'new" husband started telling others to pray for us/me, while our marriage went down the gurgler, I was similarly "outraged".
( He "thought" he was doing us a favour, I saw all the snickering and whispering!!).
Prayer is deeply personal, and especially 'family' issues in a Church that Gossips.
Your husband perhaps would have been wiser to seek your affirmation first.

Sometimes men don't think :p
God Bless,
Love
Kerrin ;)

[Jerry]

but when hubby stood up at the end of church and asked the members to pray for her, i feel outraged. and i am not sure why. i feel like there is some kind of invasion of privacy when he does that. especially, if i start to hear that these people are making us the topic of conversation again, even if its for a good reason. (via emails, or phone calls).
is this rational? does anybody else go through this? i only get made if my husband does it, not anyone else. i dunno. i am so confused right now.
Dear DLL,,,
Well DLL you get the prize of the day.Maybe on rare occations confused is logic.There is no fact or extrapolation of fact that explains this mind set.So why does it seem so normal to me ???? I guess it is the same dynamic that functions in myself when asked in a mall by a stranger,,,,,"Have you found the Lord ???",and I reply,,,,,"I didn't know He was lost" and they look at me with that "Deer in the headlights"stare :D ,,,,Hehehehe I think your normal :eek: I bet that scares ya :D
Love Jerry

[DLL]

LOL!!!!!you are too funny!

[magicbear]

Hi Donna.....

yup yup you sound very normal to me my sweet friend..... hopefully

your hubby learns to seek your counsel first before launching out lie that &

making pvt matters public. Did kerrin say sometimes men dont think????

why kerrin the nerve...... us men ALWAYS think just not.... uh-oh that

really should be for another thread i think.... carry on!!!! :eek: :cool: :p ;)




love & grace- Robert

[butterfly]

[[[Donna]]] When your husband ask for prayer for any family matter he is feeding information to the enemy! :( At the abused church I went to we asked for an unspoken prayer request. :D :D That had them guessing!! He should of asked your daughter first if it was ok. I know of a family at church the husband would ask for prayer for his family all ears were perked up. Their family was a weekly topic so when he would ask well that just added to the fuel. :( :( I"m sorry to hear your daughter is ill. I think of you as forum family. :D butterfly