Sheep
09-28-2004, 01:06 PM
My son has come off of the bus a couple of times claiming "that he never wants to go to school again!" or "I never want to ride that bus again!" There are three boys that have teased him over the course of this past month. One incident is in regards to my son throwing up on the bus two years ago and another is being teased about falling off the monkey bars and getting a bloody knee and having to wear sweatpants from the nurses' office - both of which were situations out of his control! We had requested that our son be moved to sit with a neighbor boy (a kind fellow who is the oldest of five siblings). Instead, the neighbor boy was moved into the seat with our son and of course, the teasing continued from the boys sitting near him on the bus. One of the boys have been moved, but as my son was teased again I telephoned the principal to inquire who should be contacted regarding this. He wanted to take care of the situation and spoke with the other boys, but contacted me today saying that my son is resistant to the idea of sitting at the front of the bus. My son is concerned that the other boys will get moved around and doesn't want to stand out. I reassured the principal that it is the nature of my son's disability (autism) to resist change and that I think it be best that we follow through on moving him. He asked if my husband and I would take care of talking with our son (as he didn't want my son to have a "meltdown" at school)! When I arrived home I had a message on my answering machine from one of the mothers carrying on about how her son is not perfect but she just couldn't believe her son would act in such a way that would threaten a child's safety on the bus and wanted to know if her son could come over and apologize. In all honesty, I heard the mother's guilt and her own defensiveness coming through. I am tired of reacting to situations and trying to fix things/people and their feelings! I no longer want to be a good codependent - lol! For me, I felt upset after hearing the message and have reasoned with my intellect that the principal has already taken care of the situation and there is no need for me to react to her message and get entangled in her feelings. I think I just need to settle inside and be quiet before God and just be able to let the situation go.
Baa...growing up is hard to do!!!!
Sheep
Baa...growing up is hard to do!!!!
Sheep