jane
06-13-2005, 10:00 PM
I am still angry. Period.
How is it that someone comes onto this thread as a minister in bold capital letters, tells us how to heal, what to do....now he has apologized, told us his story and the people who "reacted" are feeling like they need to apologize or leave???? They are the ones PMing him, making him feel better....
People do things that tick people off. I don't care what anyone says contrary. I don't like seeing others who have been abused fall into patterns of feeling like they are a "bad girl" or "broke rules" for standing up for themselves. Period.
I don't like seeing them or myself second guess myself when arrows come against us....old arrows or new. Telling us that maybe he is wrong, maybe his intentions are wrong, but YOU ARE WRONG FOR FIGHTING BACK>
That is what I am reading.
I don't like reading posts that tell people who are angry that there is always someone who is looking to get angry for any little reason....
Mike's initial post was not a little reason. There was reason for us to stand up and question it, period. Not because I was abused before, not because I am "new to recovery" and haven't arrived yet and certainly not because I go looking for any reason to be angry.
I was angry because he came in here arrogant, assuming, directive and with a LARGE TITLE.
He apologized, I can get over it.
But I refuse to get let these other issues be swept under the rug without my speaking up. Inuendos, accusations and hurts that I am seeing--- is not something that I am going to "get over"; not without me speaking up.
Kerrin, Butterfly, Jerry, Voyager, Janice and to anyone else who Responded, reacted, etc......IT IS OK FOR YOU TO DO SO>>>>
and if anyone won't listen to your voice then in the words of a very wise man, pass them the salt!
Jane
How is it that someone comes onto this thread as a minister in bold capital letters, tells us how to heal, what to do....now he has apologized, told us his story and the people who "reacted" are feeling like they need to apologize or leave???? They are the ones PMing him, making him feel better....
People do things that tick people off. I don't care what anyone says contrary. I don't like seeing others who have been abused fall into patterns of feeling like they are a "bad girl" or "broke rules" for standing up for themselves. Period.
I don't like seeing them or myself second guess myself when arrows come against us....old arrows or new. Telling us that maybe he is wrong, maybe his intentions are wrong, but YOU ARE WRONG FOR FIGHTING BACK>
That is what I am reading.
I don't like reading posts that tell people who are angry that there is always someone who is looking to get angry for any little reason....
Mike's initial post was not a little reason. There was reason for us to stand up and question it, period. Not because I was abused before, not because I am "new to recovery" and haven't arrived yet and certainly not because I go looking for any reason to be angry.
I was angry because he came in here arrogant, assuming, directive and with a LARGE TITLE.
He apologized, I can get over it.
But I refuse to get let these other issues be swept under the rug without my speaking up. Inuendos, accusations and hurts that I am seeing--- is not something that I am going to "get over"; not without me speaking up.
Kerrin, Butterfly, Jerry, Voyager, Janice and to anyone else who Responded, reacted, etc......IT IS OK FOR YOU TO DO SO>>>>
and if anyone won't listen to your voice then in the words of a very wise man, pass them the salt!
Jane