lavendre
05-06-2005, 05:41 PM
"Your mother died to save you. If there is one thing Voldermort cannot understand, it is love. He didn't realize that love as powerful as your mother's for you leaves its own mark. Not a scar, no visible sign....to have been loved so deeply, even though the person who loved us is gone, will give us some protection forever" p. 299 Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone.
I don't even care for the Harry Potter series but there is a truth in the idea of the protection of a mother's love...Emotionally a person would have that basis from which to go from, to work from....a confidence... a security in the world.
My husband's grandfather said about children: "Love them when they are little and they grow up to be tough."
To those of us without that built in protection of a mother who loved us during our development:
There is a chink in our armor....
Abused by our own mothers we will be searching for affirmation, compassion, nuturing love, validation. The foundation of a mother's love is missing in us, makes us look weak,needing reassurance, when we may actually be more competent than those who had decent mothering in many ways. To survive we had to be our own mothers. We can give love,have a better relationship with our children, but until we are truly loved by someone we really can't progress. How does a person make up for the lack of mother love in their life? that lack of nurturing? What do you do when you grow up and find that your mother sees you as an object? We have that need
to have someone in our everyday 3D real life to validate us and help us grow beyond this hurt - someone to share our life with.
When our mothers hate us how can we trust anyone?
So to all who have to endure Mother's day or any other day in their country where mothers are honored and feel "obligated" to honor someone who hates you, abuses you... To those who get through the day trying not to feel guilty for holding a boundary to the continued abuse of the one that was to have nurtured you....
Hang in there....
When my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me up. Psalm 27:10
I don't even care for the Harry Potter series but there is a truth in the idea of the protection of a mother's love...Emotionally a person would have that basis from which to go from, to work from....a confidence... a security in the world.
My husband's grandfather said about children: "Love them when they are little and they grow up to be tough."
To those of us without that built in protection of a mother who loved us during our development:
There is a chink in our armor....
Abused by our own mothers we will be searching for affirmation, compassion, nuturing love, validation. The foundation of a mother's love is missing in us, makes us look weak,needing reassurance, when we may actually be more competent than those who had decent mothering in many ways. To survive we had to be our own mothers. We can give love,have a better relationship with our children, but until we are truly loved by someone we really can't progress. How does a person make up for the lack of mother love in their life? that lack of nurturing? What do you do when you grow up and find that your mother sees you as an object? We have that need
to have someone in our everyday 3D real life to validate us and help us grow beyond this hurt - someone to share our life with.
When our mothers hate us how can we trust anyone?
So to all who have to endure Mother's day or any other day in their country where mothers are honored and feel "obligated" to honor someone who hates you, abuses you... To those who get through the day trying not to feel guilty for holding a boundary to the continued abuse of the one that was to have nurtured you....
Hang in there....
When my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me up. Psalm 27:10