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Oopsie Daisey
09-22-2004, 07:16 PM
I am disheartened by my interview today. It doesn't feel like it went good, although I answered honestly and intelligently. I felt like the Doctor that I applied with, who done my interviewed showed me all the holes that I knew was already there. With Doctors it is hard to tell what they are thinking because they are so used to disguising their feelings and their emotions. I almost envy their ability to cover so well. I mean, once you work with them then it is easy to see through them but I have no feel for the interview from the doctor but if I look through my eyes it felt like all my failures were pointed out. I tried but that is not enough. I need a job... I seem to connect my spiritual, my self worth and other things to this and I got to get my stuff together. I wondered what I would do if they wanted references from others that I had known and I thought, rats, always before I gave them the people in my former church as references when they wanted someone outside of those I worked with or who were my bosses. But they didn't even ask for that stuff. The doctor said, which job do you want and I told him, and then he asked why I didn't have it wrote on my resume? I didn't know it existed until I got there. .... Dear, dear, dear. I want to crawl in a hole...I am embarrassed that I asked for prayer for the job now if I don't get it everyone will know I am a loser.

Melanie

Emerging
09-22-2004, 07:39 PM
((((((((((((Melanie)))))))))))), you are NOT a loser!! You are sad and that's normal.. you are HEALING so much, of course it's hard to stay on an even keel during all this! But hang in there ... and like you say ...." Dismiss what insults your Soul"

LOVING YOU!!!! PRAYING FOR YOU!!! :)

Pilgrim
09-22-2004, 10:04 PM
That DOESN'T mean you're a loser. And honestly you haven't been turned down yet, have you? So, maybe the interview went better than you thought.

Either way, how you do in an interview is not what determines your worth. It's what Jesus did on the cross for you that determines your worth. And your worth A LOT!!!! You are VERY special.

Will be praying for the job situation, hang in there!

Theodora
09-23-2004, 04:08 AM
You are NOT a "loser!"

For one thing, "losers" don't find the courage to continue to reach out and TRY new things as you have done. It's unfortunate, in a way, that your job interview was with those so practiced at being "professional" that you couldn't be at ease with them. That MAY have affected your interview, but, on the other hand, if they're as "professional" as one would hope they are, they might be able to weigh ALL of your qualifications....AS WELL AS to see you as a person who, though "challenged" is also demonstrating QUITE a lot of "can-do" attitude.

So.....YEA for you, (((Melanie)))!!! I know it must be REALLY scary for you right now, since you've got so much riding on the outcome of this and need the job, BUT DO continue to try to separate any "results" other than what you'd have hoped for from your assessment of "who you are." :o

This is SO very hard!!! :p

I know from my own experience how HARD it is to maintain any kind of healthy "self-esteem" when I'm struggling physically and emotionally. At such times, I ALSO struggle "spiritually" as well.

However, remember that we are assured that we ARE loved---in spite of what we may "feel" and that "the Spirit also helps us when we know not what to pray for."

Grace and PEACE to you and yours this day, dear child of God. You remain in my prayers.

((((Melanie))))

Yours in Christ--

Theodora

Jerry
09-23-2004, 04:33 AM
Hey Theo!!!!!!
Ya know I actually had a "normal" nights sleep,,,,,,,,,,,ah!!!!!! I am probably coming down with some kind of "Pestilance" :eek:
Love Jerry

Oopsie Daisey
09-23-2004, 06:10 AM
I am so sorry. I really do know better. I didn't realize how irrational I was last night and how tired. I had also had a rotten kind of conversation with my brother and my mind was jumbled up when I talked to him. I was irrational and totally exhausted and making mountains out of molehills. Yes, I do know better, I just didn't know I was doing it last night until I totally came unglued and set here and cried non stop until there was nothing left to pour out to God and then I seen how ridiculous I was. Thanks for the support and my time of exhaustion and irrational thinking.

Love,
Melanie

Emerging
09-23-2004, 06:06 PM
(((Mel))), no worries ... we ALL do this!!! WAY more often than we would like! :rolleyes: ... so, you're cool! :cool:

And you saw through it all so FAST this time around!!! :D That is GREAT progress you're making here, hon!!! YAY!!! :D